Wow, today was a toughie. I finally got the guts to ask my wife about finacial matters. Asked to see all the bills, her income, and her last three bank statements. She lost it at the bank statments to her private account, but if we peed away 3grand or better on a couple of lawyers, it would all come out anyway/ FOund out her take home is almost twice mine LOL She is a nurse, and I let her carry me along. Got a big honking tax bill coming up from my state due to non filing for several years. Yea, I should have paid more attention, but at the time, my logic was just let her have total control and maybe she would feel more secure with me. That was bogus logic and pretty stupid. Now I am not sure we can even dig up the w2's