Sometimes I drive myself crazy looking for signs or cause and effect relationships.We had been planning a family vacation for this coming March break.  Yesterday I found out that I had booked the wrong week ....my holidays fall a week later and I can't change them.  The resort (my sister's time share) had a penalty for changing weeks and all the suites were booked.  All they had available were studios which can be small.  So we would be paying the same price for a one room accomodation.   I felt that the error for the wrong week was mine so I was willing to live with this.  However my husband was not happy about it.   He pointed out past hotel stays were I didn't get any sleep due to his snoring.    My husband's snoring is a factor to consider.......at home I usually end up going to the spare bedroom.  I don't want to wear ear plugs or anything because I'm afraid I won't hear my daughter when she calls.  I should point out my husband is a very sound sleeper......he never hears her call.    The snoring really is a trivial thing.  Anyway we had been worrying if we really could afford the flights etc....I was also thinking that I can't try another pregnancy because it would be terrible to be miscarrying in another country .....what if I needed medical attention.  So when this wrong week happened my husband remarked "maybe someone is trying to tell us not to go at this time."  So of course my wild imagination seizes on this and I think it's  a  "sign" for me that this is my time to try another pregnancy.....my calendar is open. It all sounds silly I know but when you've been so desparately wanting a baby you begin to obsess a  little. I am still on the prenatal vitamins, the extra folic acid and daily low dose asperin.  The only thing I haven't started is the progesterone again.  My husband is pretty silent on the issue which makes it hard.....he says it's my decision because I am the one who goes through the miscarriage.   So dear DS friends I am still in a holding pattern.    

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What just bad luck about the trip! Do you have personal days? I know this silence. It\'s daunting to us. Hugs! I joined a fertility group, which is really helping.
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Oh the old holding pattern..that sucks - I know that one - SIF is like one big holding pattern, isn\'t it. I hope you find some peace soon around the trip/reading into things. I think it\'s very natural to be overly tuned in when feeling so vulnerable. It\'s not right or wrong - it\'s just where you are at. Be kind to yourself. x