I am full of frustration again tonight. I had a doctor's appointment back on April 28. I called back around March 11 and dragon lady receptionist could only get me in the end of April?!!! She asks why you need to come in and then she decides how "urgent" it is for me to see the doctor. I asked for one more referral and my doctor agreed. Then I heard nothing. So last week I called and dragon lady receptionist said she's been busy and hasn't faxed the referral yet. I mean how much time does it take to fax something. Today she left me a message saying I have an appointment with the referral doctor on August 5th! I am so steamed....... who is she to have this power of my precious little time to try and have a baby. Maybe this is misdirected anger but it has been the case over and over again since I've started trying for a second baby. I wait months for my regular doctor through dragon lady receptionist to make the referral each time. These places will only take you with a doctor's referral so I am at their mercy. If you add up all the months waiting for dragon lady to arrange referrals and then waiting for the actual appointments........ I've lost over a year. Time is not on my side here. So now I don't know what to do. I had planned to try one last time this summer. I thought if I timed it so I am on holidays during that critical 10 week mark where I always seem to loss my pregnancy.....if I wasn't stressed about work maybe I would make it through. Every referral I've had say they can do nothing for me if I arrive pregnant. So now what? If I get pregnant now I am between doctors who supposedly specialize in fertility. I say that because my experience so far has been that they really don't do anything for recurrent pregnancy loss. They are fertility clinics primarily focusing on conception. Miscarriage and recurrent pregnancy loss are on the back burner. I am just so angry that I can't get help. I am angry because I'm being written off as too old to really put much effort into...... "just keep putting her off until she goes away" philosophy.
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I can see why you\'re frustrated. You\'re in between worlds - being treated for miscarriages vs been treated for infertility. I know about the waiting for referrals and appointments. Your reference to The Dragon Lady receptionist makes me laugh as I\'ve named my gyno\'s receptionist (in my head) The Snarky One. (!) I hope you get some direction and help with it all asap. x
I am angry with you. People have been blowing you off due to your age. Could you call the Dragon Lady lie and tell her you think you might be pregnant? Maybe that\'s too much. I know very little about the medical system in Can. However, I would consider a new doctor.
you know how i feel, girl. they should round up everyone who\'s been involved in your case from the beginning and drop them in the ocean. what about just putting this in the hands of a higher power or leaving it to random chance. what a difficult decision. i hope my support and positive wishes for you and your family are helpful in some way.