Today I decided to "take the higher road." I've been telling myself that all day. Everytime I might say something nasty to my husband (i.e., usually defending myself), I've bit my tongue and thought "take the higher road." I tend to hold grudges so this is not easy for me. I'm also going to send a Christmas card to someone who wronged me in hopes of not fixing the relationship but at least forgiving. It would do me good to forgive, I don't do that very often. I am extremely loyal, loyal beyond all bounds; but once betrayed, I never forgive. So we'll see how this goes. I'm not sure I've ever tried this particular approach before. Wish me luck.