I am so sick of my husband telling me I am selfish and cutting me down. I know, intellectually, that is he just venting his own self-loathing as the things that he says are not true about me and most often are true about him. I know this, logically, but still my emotional self takes a beating. I always said that if it ever got to the point where I doubted myself and my self worth I would leave--but that was before we had a son with a disability. Now I feel trapped in an unhappy marriage. It sucks.