You know, I wasn't really concerned about underage drinkers at this party, because if we were going to serve beer, I was going to have my SCARY STINK-EYE trained on it the whole time, there was going to be NO UNDERAGED DRINKERS, not on MY watch! What have I become?!!! :) My concern was more the impression it makes on my daughter. And her friends, but mostly my daughter. I just wanted family and friends and fun for her... without substances... I've never had that, myself, until now. I've missed so much... My husband and I talked, I told him how important it was to me, especially at this juncture (tomorrow is 6 months for me!!), I told him I felt it was an important step I wanted to take in my PARENTING, and then I left it up to him. Godblesshisheart, he went with me on this one! It was a beautiful party, the yard was all done up in lights and sheer, billowing fabrics and sea shells and glittering and magic and stars... My daughter was glowing! She must've put her head on my shoulder and told me, Thanks, Mum, for my partyyyyy! about 20 times! And I heard her telling her friends, a couple times, as I walked away from greeting them, she said, "My Mum's so cute!" She said that to her friends! She has NEVER, I mean, NEVER called me cute! Because I've never been cute or sweet in my life. So far this is the greatest gift of my sobriety, my daughter's renewed respect and affection. Something has changed in me, something huge. I've crossed a line... I'm going to have myself a little celebration tomorrow, I have to think of something great to do, some sort of ceremony...