Eh...
Not doing very well today. So i`ve been looking forward to having my friend (the girl im always talking about) up to my trailer, we`ll this weekend was the week. Friday night was fun, we all drank...had a good time.. Woke up sat and made the mistake of checking my fucking phone. Msg from the Ex starting her bullshit, TOTALLY put me into a downward spiral all day long. Started doing some work and it was almost as this friend of mine was almost....not talking to me..just to my buddy. Guess i was getting jealous slowly all day but regardless when i started up the fire, i started drinking and hit the bottle a little hard. Just the thoughts of my ex swimming around in my head all day, and all night..not good thoughts. All the bad times, all the bullshit...and i sorta just...shut everyone out all night...sat there...drank and smoked...and said fuck all. What a great way to treat a guest huh. Esspecially one that means THIS much to me. Very sad to say that i realized this weekend she has no romantic intereste in me. Makes me sad but if i were to find a girl half as amazing as she is, i would be very lucky. She`s still my friend, and i would like to keep her as a friend but it`s like the more i talk to her or see her, or hang out...the more i WANT her to be more then a friend..hold her, kiss her....protect her...treat her like a princess...but i doubt that`s going anywere now. Ah we`ll, I`ve learned my ex still has way to much power over me for me to start dating anyway. Fuck.
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hun maybe you missed read the signs of this girl...i mean you said yourself you were not much of a host to your friend..so maybe she picked up on that and stayed back..gave you your space and she is thinking to herself \"man this guy not into me\" either way you should let her know your sorry you were not having a good day, that it had nothing to do with her. your right though about keeping the friendship. Also you have to stop letting your ex have this power over you, she is controlling you and your not even with her...hun you got to take control for yourself ok? please just think about that for me ok. *HUGS*
hey sweetheart! i have been there too! i also am not ready to date either cuz my x still as a hold on me and it kills me every time i try to date. see what my x did to me i dont want to wish on anyone. he not only cheated on me but put me in the hospital. soo yea sweetheart i know how u feel! ~~great big hugs~~
A few months back, on the advice of some DS\'ers who have been there already, I went complete cold turkey, no contact whatsoever with the ex.
No calls, emails, no pictures, no trying to find out what she is up to now.
It was only bringing me down anyways.
In the months since then, I have gotten my head on straight.
Time helps, but the progress will be better if you stop torturing yourself with contact with the ex.