well i got a new addiotion to the family monday after work. my husband didn't know that i was going to get her but he loves her anyway. Sweetpea is out new kitten adn she's only 9 weeks old. love her to death ( no pun intended) and the only thing that worries me about her is being alone while im at work and so is my husband but the 9 month old cat we have has been hissing at her since day one. does anyone have any suggestions about anything would be great about getting them to get along he'll go near her but anythign else and he hisses and he's much much bigger then she is. how did i tell everyone i think im pregnante? wouldnt that be great new baby, new kitten life is grande right now.
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Yea Joey!!! A new kitten and maybe a new baby! Perfect timing right around Mother\'s Day huh? Huge hugs hon! It\'ll take some time for your older, bigger cat to get used to your little kitten. He probably feels threatened by her (silly huh?) because she\'ll be competition for attention, food, & space in the house now. Its a survival of the fittest thing. Give him time, he\'ll adjust to her. Try to give both of them equal amounts of attention. I know, she\'s small and cute and you want to baby her. But that will make him jealous and hurt his feelings. Make sure to give him plenty of love and attention too. Separately and together. With time they\'ll learn to coincide and tolerate each other. Remember cats aren\'t like dogs...cats have their own minds and tend to be opinionated and stubborn. Let him do his own thing. They don\'t have to be best friends, but they can\'t fight. If you\'re worried about him hurting her while you\'re away put them in separate rooms for a while until you know how he\'ll respond. Giving him lots of love and assuring him you still love him should assure him he\'s okay. And give it time, like anything else. ;-) The website http://cats.about.com/cs/kittencare/a/kitten_intro.htm says \"Put your kitten in a separate Safe Room for a couple of days. Make sure she has her own bed, food and water dish, and litterbox. After she has been cleared by your veterinarian, you can open the door to her \"safe room\" a crack, to allow the other cats to sniff and peek at her. Rub her with a towel to impart her scent on it, then put the towel in the sleeping area of your existing cats, so they\'ll become accustomed to her smell. Reverse the tactic by giving her a towel or blanket with the scent of your older cats. In a couple of days you can put her in a carrier and allow the other cats to come in and sniff her. Expect a bit of growling and hissy-spitty behavior at first; it\'s instinctive. For \"holdouts,\" try not to rush things, but provide occasions where the older cats and the new kitten can share pleasurable activities. My cats enjoy playing \"chase the ball\" with little Billy. The \"ball\" may only be a crumpled up piece of paper, but it offers interactivity as the cats compete to be the first to bring down the \"prey.\" It\'s surprising sometimes how often they let Billy \"win.\" Soon-- within a week or two, the bunch of them should settle down and be getting along just fine. The key is not to rush things, and to give both sides a lot of individual attention in the interim. In no time at all, your kitten will be part of your clowder of cats.\" Best of luck! As for maybe being pregnant, make sure you\'re getting lots of rest, water, and taking your vitamins! Baby dust you way my dear...my thoughts and prayers are with you! Hugs!