yeah but its kinda hard when my mother won't even let em talk to them online. anyway its not worth it. fighting her i mean not onyl she hurting me in a way to get to me to get me pissed she's hurting my sisters because last time she did this they kept asking when she comming home to see us. she'll do it until i give in and when i don't she'll blam me for not talking to anyone when she was the one that wouldn't let em talk to them
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Very wise dear, choose your battles. Wait her out, your sisters will most likely bug her to death and she\'ll relent. What she wants is for you to give in to her, so she\'ll have you where she wants you. If you back off and ignore her she\'ll come around to you. Don\'t play her game! I\'ve been there, done that! Sometimes it feels like no matter what you do you lose and get hurt. Sometimes it feels like no matter how you change your behavior or try something new she changes her game and hurts you another way. Just remember you can\'t control how she acts and what happening inside your mom isn\'t really about you. She most likely plays manipulation games with other people too. She\'s sick, in a way. This is what my therapist tells me. You cannot help her, you can only change how you act and respond to her. By no means do you have to stop loving her or stop talking to her. Just prepare for what she might do, and learn from how she treats you. Know what she does and decide you DON\'T want to be that way. You are such a sweet woman and a wonderful friend! You\'re an awesome wife and sister as well, I\'m sure. Although this is hard stay strong! You\'ve been through a lot in your life and you can handle this! Girl power hon!!! ;-) Hugs!