wow, I had a bunch of hugs & messages today, i will have to take time & try to respond to them all. so many people suffer loss & face tragedies, i can understand how they feel, but i am not very helpful. except, one meeting I went to, this lady had just lost her son, he was 40 something & died suddenly from a medical condition. she was crying & said that she felt so detached from everyone, because no one was going through what she was. and i told her, i had felt the same way when joe first died, i felt like i was on another planet. and just telling her that helped her. then i told her how i had felt like a cannonball had gone through my stomach for the first couple months, & she was like, yes! it's like that! so, there are ways you can help people i guess, even for someone quiet like me.