After reading my friend saltwater's journal I felt moved to write the following. I had it on my heart to ask you all to pray for T'Ben. Thanking you in advance our angel moms.
I am so grateful you posted this. I like all of us fight so hard not to scream at people with their cheery Happy Mother's Day... I too cry for my mom and my daughter... I resent like hell they're not here... I will pick myself up and move forward but please please please... understand for me... Happy Mother's Day isn't a possibility... I can handle that... but I'm having trouble with people who don't get it bringing their joy to me and expecting me to mirror it... That being said... I am still trying to pull up my very big (a wee drop of humor) panties... My grandson... the eldest child for Cara, my daughter who died, is turning 21 on Mother's Day. The fact that this big birthday is falling on Mother's Day has been hurting him... It brings up the sadness and the anger that his mom once again can't be here for his special day... It sucks... I am trying to help him all I can and I'm going to ask you all to please pray for him. I also am encouraging him to plant some flowers in loving memory of his mother. I'm hoping being busy and creating something pretty for his mom will help him. Again I truly thank you for your post... I too needed to vent. I hope you will consider planting a potted plant or something in memory of your mom. Hugs Elissa
I am so grateful you posted this. I like all of us fight so hard not to scream at people with their cheery Happy Mother's Day... I too cry for my mom and my daughter... I resent like hell they're not here... I will pick myself up and move forward but please please please... understand for me... Happy Mother's Day isn't a possibility... I can handle that... but I'm having trouble with people who don't get it bringing their joy to me and expecting me to mirror it... That being said... I am still trying to pull up my very big (a wee drop of humor) panties... My grandson... the eldest child for Cara, my daughter who died, is turning 21 on Mother's Day. The fact that this big birthday is falling on Mother's Day has been hurting him... It brings up the sadness and the anger that his mom once again can't be here for his special day... It sucks... I am trying to help him all I can and I'm going to ask you all to please pray for him. I also am encouraging him to plant some flowers in loving memory of his mother. I'm hoping being busy and creating something pretty for his mom will help him. Again I truly thank you for your post... I too needed to vent. I hope you will consider planting a potted plant or something in memory of your mom. Hugs Elissa
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Ditto, Ditto - having my grandson NOT in the area bugs me too- I pray that his mom will be remembered and not just \'FORGOTTON\".....It hurts to remember how things were, but yet remembering my Jennifer & my mom is so important.....My heart will be with Hunter, Sunday, as I know we both will be remembering his mom. SIGH....Potted Plant, I like that idea.....Thank you!! ((((hugs)))) Vicki ** My heart will be with your grandson, also as he too, is learning to walk this journey.
Give your grandson an extra special birthday hug from us. I hope that the day can be a loving peaceful one for both of you, creating something beautiful.
Love and tight hugs,
Marlene
All holidays hurt now to some extent, no doubt about it.
Vent all you need to, we all do it and we all need it.
Hugs,
Terry
Yes, as Ter1 says, this is the right place to vent. I still don\'t have words, (and I know so many) to talk about my mom. Her loss, 14 years ago, is felt every day. and of course, it\'s doubled with the loss of my adult son, Jacob, brother, son, father, friend-always missed and always remembered. Our losses multiply as we age up. Be brave and loving, abby
Love the memorial planting idea!! Maybe, even crazy old me could do that!!!
((((HUGS)))), Julia
I will be praying for all of us.
Sending a prayer and thinking of your grandson who turns 21 on May 10th. My daughter turns 30 on that day and I know her heart does some tumbles too when it falls on Mother\'s Day as she is remembering her brother.
The idea of doing something in their honor is a lovely one and however one can navigate the day is what matters.
Tender and loving care for ALL of us and hoping that your grandson will be ok on his milestone birthday of turning 21.
XO Joanie
I send my prayers for your grandson.... but have you thought of planting a tree or bush.... as they grow they are such wonderful reminders... love ya!
I am glad you posted this here too. You know I am praying for you and your grandson and will continue to do so. Anything we can do (mostly from afar) to help the moms in our group and/or their families is important!
Lots of hugs,
Leda
Hi Elissa, I hope your grandson\'s birthday was a least gentle. My son died one month before his son Joshua\'s 21st birthday. Josh was a mess as he and his Dad had made very special plans for that milestone, but Ed died suddenly one month prior. All I could do is validate that Josh got robbed of something that could have been such a special bonding moment and a rite of passage.
And I am with you. People, please stop wishing me a happy mothers day! It hurts! Gentle hugs of understanding and much love to your and dearest Cara, Linda