A friend here on DS is a blond... and poor child... I hope she doesn't get mad at me... she probably won't... blonds have to be tough with all the jokes we throw at them... So this is part of a hug I sent her... and then I added some more because I'm enjoying remembering
Cara... As my son said on her memorial page... she had something about her that just lit up a room... The light has not gone out... In my heart I see her and the light still shines... and I want you all to bask in the glow...
You talking about being a blond... I have to smile... Cara was a little blond haired blue eyed angel... and we adored her... I thought she was the prettiest child this side of heaven... so as she got a little older around 5 or 6 she got a little smug... now in our family... that won't do... we're gonna bug you... she'd say things... like don't you wish you were blonds to me and my mom... stuff like that... we'd tell her... oh no... no way... we don't want that ugly old yaller hair... we'd all laugh because she knew very well we thought she was the cat's meow... when she was in her teens I used to tease her by collecting blond jokes... Whenever other people would tell her blond jokes... she'd just laugh and tell them she probably knew more blond jokes than they did... that her mother collected them... We always razzed each other and it was just a part of who we are... she got me one time... she asked me if I knew how a brunette turned on the light after sex... well I didn't... it was her pleasure to enlighten me... They open the car door... irreverent... a little off center... oh yeah.... reminds me of a joke a comedian made recently... He said that what most people miss about dysfunctional families... is the word fun is in it... so yeay we're a little crazy at times...
During her teens Cara discovered guys... I saw it happening... I was a bit nervous but she was so beautiful and natural it was a pleasure to see her shine... She wasn't allowed to date but she had a new "boyfriend" every couple of weeks for awhile... I really have to thank the boys moms... they may want to shoot me... but some of the names made great fodder for our family's wacky sense of humor... I mean... you think about it... I'm a Gone With The Wind fan as you all know because of my frequent mention of my Rhett Butler moments... So when Cara came home and announced that her new "forever" love's name was Ashley.... oh yeah... Yeah you really got to love a girl who will gift you with a boyfriend named Ashley... and there was Cy.... uh.... dying fading away voice whisper cy.. oh cy... one of my favorites was Brandon... him and another boy rode several miles on their bicycles to the house so that Brandon could see Cara on Saturday as he didn't think he'd make it till Monday... *Smile* Oh that child had the prettiest dark blue eyes I ever saw... I told Cara to keep Brandon as I wanted my grandchildren to inherit his blue eyes... alas... the blue eyes weren't enough and he was soon out of the picture... When Cara was finally allowed to date she met Ben and he was pretty much the only serious boyfriend she had before they ended up expecting a baby and moving in together when she was 17... To be blunt I fought it... but the police said that by the time the court system did whatever they had to do to allow me to force her to come home... she'd be 18... so I had to accept it... We came to love Ben very much and we still do... Their marriage had gone way out of kilter in the last few years... Ben thinks maybe its because Cara didn't get to have the lifestyle a lot of young girls did... the dating I mean real dating and making up and breaking up with several young men... she met him... they became a couple... she got pregnant... dropped out of school her senior year... became a mom and then a wife... obviously no senior proms... It really no longer matters... Today I'm very glad that Ben always loved Cara and that they were still married when she died... Its selfish... I know Ben has lived through some really awful times... but I'm grateful for how much he loved my child... and I love him... Cara used to fuss... said I loved Ben more than I loved her... not true... but I do love him very much... He's not a child of my body... but he is a child of my heart....
Speaking of... I need to try to call him... I need to nag him to bring the kids and himself and come see me... Love Yall Elissa
Cara... As my son said on her memorial page... she had something about her that just lit up a room... The light has not gone out... In my heart I see her and the light still shines... and I want you all to bask in the glow...
You talking about being a blond... I have to smile... Cara was a little blond haired blue eyed angel... and we adored her... I thought she was the prettiest child this side of heaven... so as she got a little older around 5 or 6 she got a little smug... now in our family... that won't do... we're gonna bug you... she'd say things... like don't you wish you were blonds to me and my mom... stuff like that... we'd tell her... oh no... no way... we don't want that ugly old yaller hair... we'd all laugh because she knew very well we thought she was the cat's meow... when she was in her teens I used to tease her by collecting blond jokes... Whenever other people would tell her blond jokes... she'd just laugh and tell them she probably knew more blond jokes than they did... that her mother collected them... We always razzed each other and it was just a part of who we are... she got me one time... she asked me if I knew how a brunette turned on the light after sex... well I didn't... it was her pleasure to enlighten me... They open the car door... irreverent... a little off center... oh yeah.... reminds me of a joke a comedian made recently... He said that what most people miss about dysfunctional families... is the word fun is in it... so yeay we're a little crazy at times...
During her teens Cara discovered guys... I saw it happening... I was a bit nervous but she was so beautiful and natural it was a pleasure to see her shine... She wasn't allowed to date but she had a new "boyfriend" every couple of weeks for awhile... I really have to thank the boys moms... they may want to shoot me... but some of the names made great fodder for our family's wacky sense of humor... I mean... you think about it... I'm a Gone With The Wind fan as you all know because of my frequent mention of my Rhett Butler moments... So when Cara came home and announced that her new "forever" love's name was Ashley.... oh yeah... Yeah you really got to love a girl who will gift you with a boyfriend named Ashley... and there was Cy.... uh.... dying fading away voice whisper cy.. oh cy... one of my favorites was Brandon... him and another boy rode several miles on their bicycles to the house so that Brandon could see Cara on Saturday as he didn't think he'd make it till Monday... *Smile* Oh that child had the prettiest dark blue eyes I ever saw... I told Cara to keep Brandon as I wanted my grandchildren to inherit his blue eyes... alas... the blue eyes weren't enough and he was soon out of the picture... When Cara was finally allowed to date she met Ben and he was pretty much the only serious boyfriend she had before they ended up expecting a baby and moving in together when she was 17... To be blunt I fought it... but the police said that by the time the court system did whatever they had to do to allow me to force her to come home... she'd be 18... so I had to accept it... We came to love Ben very much and we still do... Their marriage had gone way out of kilter in the last few years... Ben thinks maybe its because Cara didn't get to have the lifestyle a lot of young girls did... the dating I mean real dating and making up and breaking up with several young men... she met him... they became a couple... she got pregnant... dropped out of school her senior year... became a mom and then a wife... obviously no senior proms... It really no longer matters... Today I'm very glad that Ben always loved Cara and that they were still married when she died... Its selfish... I know Ben has lived through some really awful times... but I'm grateful for how much he loved my child... and I love him... Cara used to fuss... said I loved Ben more than I loved her... not true... but I do love him very much... He's not a child of my body... but he is a child of my heart....
Speaking of... I need to try to call him... I need to nag him to bring the kids and himself and come see me... Love Yall Elissa
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give that ben a big hug and smooch for me!!!! i love GWTW as well. lol i bet Cara rolled them eyes at you!! shame on you!! i can hear you now in scarlett\'s voice looking at Cara \"ashhlee, ashhlee\" hehehehehehehehe i love you, elissa!!......... charlayne
That was great Ha I really enjoyed reading your entry. Cara seemed like she was a fun young girl. I hope you have a Great Evening!
Elissa, she is a beautiful and funny person. Thank you for sharing her with us. Lots of hugs, Jake\'s mom, Kathy
Elissa, I am sitting here laughing and crying at the same time...she is a beautiful soul, takes after her mama, \'ey? I can not even try to put myself in your shoes, to lose your daughter, you amaze me with your strength, and I am sure that the strength falters at times...your husband, son, son-in-law, grand babies, and especially Cara, are so completly lucky to have you.
What great memories you have, and looking at your grand babies, I am sure you see their mama\'s and granny\'s spark shining through! I love you...Scarlett! :) (((((((((((((HUGS)))))))))) Kat
I liked this...\"He\'s not a child of my body... but he is a child of my heart.... \" very nice Elissa. :)
Elissa,
That was such a great recollection of Cara\'s life. I loved it. You have such a gift for writing! Did Cara passed away in child birth? I wasn\'t real sure about that and never have found out. I don\'t really need to, but if you choose to tell me, I\'ll listen. It would put a piece of the puzzle together for me that isn\'t there. but, if it causes you too much pain, I can live without that piece of the puzzle.
You hang in there. Your writing should be placed in a book. It\'s that good. Love, Betty