It was a rough day yesterday. My son wasn't as verbal as he had been. SOmething (or a few things) was bothering him, and he just couldn't figure out how to tell me. He mainly grunted and grabbed my fingers, dragging me all over the house. I found myself getting very frustrated and even angry at him at times. How could I ever let myself get mad at him? It's not his fault he can't communicate his frustrations, and I have to realize this. It's just hard in the "heat of the moment". It just wears at me over time, and I need to find better ways to deal with my frustrations. It seemed as though, at times, we were having a "battle of wills". I just hope that my son could understand me when I was telling him that I was sorry for getting so frustrating.
For now, whenever I feel myself getting frustrated, I just pick up my son, hug him, and tell him how much I love him. That helps put us both at ease a little, but I still need to find a better way to communicate with my son. Even if I do find a better way to communicate with my son, the hugs won't stop; I love my son way too much. Through this, I did discover that if I find my son getting frustrated, I pick him up and softly sing him his favorite nursery rhymes. That seems to have a calming effect on us both. And we both get a hug out of it too!
For now, whenever I feel myself getting frustrated, I just pick up my son, hug him, and tell him how much I love him. That helps put us both at ease a little, but I still need to find a better way to communicate with my son. Even if I do find a better way to communicate with my son, the hugs won't stop; I love my son way too much. Through this, I did discover that if I find my son getting frustrated, I pick him up and softly sing him his favorite nursery rhymes. That seems to have a calming effect on us both. And we both get a hug out of it too!
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I am the same way. I used to get mad and then realize \"What am I doing?\" I have learned to accept it more over the last month or two and now I find myself at peace. My daughter can\'t communicate either, but we did find that taking pictures of certain things that tend to frustrate a situation and hang them on the fridge and teach her to show us what she wants helps a lot. Example. She is very picky about what she wants to drink and I never could get it right. She would throw it back at me and spit it out if if wasn\'t what she wanted. Now I have a picture of our milk jug, orange juice, juicy juice and a glass of water on our fridge. When she goes to the fridge and grunts etc showing she wants something to drink we ask her which one she wants. It\'s still early and she doesn\'t always do it,but it gets better eveyday. Last night she brought the juicy juice picture and handed it to my husband. He immediatly got up and got her juice and she drank it and smiled. Try it, it takes a lot of practice and patience, but it does work. Good luck.
I did this too. I got upset with my son and wondered why. I think later I just realized that all the pressure about how we have to do this or that or our kids won\'t end up normal is too much sometimes. It is hard when we want to see results right away. I think you are fine and that was just a learning experience for you...the end result was loving and so your son will know that.
Maybe anger is just a kind of side-effect of frustration...kind of like how I cry when I get frustrated. You aren\'t truly angry with him, you are angry at the situation because it\'s hard to communicate. Don\'t beat yourself up. You can\'t be a perfect parent. I know how hard it is. My son created his own \"sign language\" when he was non-verbal. I know you use pictures, we did that, too. What about basic American Sign Language? Could he learn that? It all depends on the child. Good luck!