7/7/2016
Since I cannot find my journal, I have to start another one, ugh!
We've been civil, intimate, laughing, joking, going out to dinner, to the movies, the usual since June 26. My authorization has been approved to seek counseling, just waiting for an opening. Taking that into consideratioin my husband is still after me regarding what 'he' thinks is wrong with me. He picks fights with me. I try to ignore it. We had a discussion about the house he's about to close on and wondered if I should move in with him. REALLY? What kind of statement is that? I simply and calmly said I would . I'm trying my best to not react to prevent the arguements. It didn't help. He kept goading me, testing me, saying things like 'are you sure?' 'I don't want to this fighting to continue when we move' ' I need you to listen to me' Stuff he's been telling me all along. Well....my silence I could not contain. I asked hiom to stop. He ended up telling me to give my wedding ring back to him. I didn't have a choice. This was last week. He still has it, I asked him if I could have it back and he just looked at me. I said I wanted it back without any arguing, contingencies, etc. He ignored me, I walked to the other room.
The mind games and the manipulating are epic! On time he said 'I'm going to miss you' I said What? Because the house we're moving into is 2 floors with a basement and a 3 car garage he feels we won't be side by side nor nearby as often as we are now. REALLY? This roller coaster needs to stop.
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7/8/2016 Wes spoke with my female neightbor who has been 'counseling' us individually for the past month. He came home looking like a puppy with his tail between his legs. I didn't ask him what was said, none of my business. We went out to run errands and he was very quiet. On the way home I asked him to tell me what was wrong because he was acting gloomy, like he was waiting for the other shoe to fall. He said he can't talk to me because I won't listen. I told him I would as I wanted to know. This dialog went back and forth 3 times! I finally said fine. That I was having a good day, was feeling good, and wasn't going to let his Eeyore attitude get me down. His response = 'yup it's always about you'. I said nothing. We got home, I started to make dinner and he told me to not cook for him and left the house. Didn't talk to me. He came home late, I was still up but went to bed when he cooked for himself. Oh yeah, I asked him what time we were leaving for the yard sale we had planned on going a couple of days ago and he said, 'what difference does it make?' I went to bed. He tried snuggling up to me during the night, I ignored him.
He went to the yard sale without me, didn't even bother talking to me. An hour later he called and asked me to meet him. REALLY?! My head was spinning, it still is. He told me that it was advised we split. I said fine. We are in the process of packing anyway because he bought a house of which he's passing papers on Friday. So there will be 'his and hers' boxes. That's how it stands now.
We'll see.