Huh?
I have no idea what has happened with my STBX. He is still is an asshole, but now his intentions on dragging me through a hellish divorce have somewhat subsided. He refused to sign the paternity paperwork, so I had to pay to have him served. He then got mad at me because I could not afford to pay half of a family gym membership which he was the only one going to because he took the car when he left. Earlier this week he emailed me stating he wanted half of everything in my house because he helped put it there during the 16 years we were together. Obviously this raised my blood pressure. I found out shortly after the email that he is trying to get an apartment for him and some skank he just met about 3 weeks ago and he is tired of having to spend money for them to go to hotels. Once again my blood pressure was raised. I did not reply to his email and instead took a Xanax and told myself things will work out in me and my boys favor.
This morning he sends me another email stating he does not want any of the stuff in the house. Just his items that he left and his deceased father's possessions. WHAT THE HELL HAPPENED?!? This asshole has made everything horrible for me and the kids. He does not want to pay child support and is going to fight it in court, he took the car and we are forced to use the bus because I cannot afford a car, he only spends a few hours with our son (the one that is talking to him) on the weekend when he can fit him in and he is talking about me like I am the devil herself to anyone that will listen. Now he wants to abandon the tactics of taking all the electronics, bedroom and living room furniture and just settle for his DVD's and few clothes he no longer wears? My best friend told me don't question it. She says that as long as he is not doing anything to cause us anymore pain, just let it be. I understand her logic but this change is perplexing.
When I woke up this morning, I told myself today and everyday afterward is going to be a good day for me. I am not going to harp on what I cannot fix. There is a reason that man is no longer in our lives and I have to make our lives from here on out the happiest and most fulfilling they can be.
This morning he sends me another email stating he does not want any of the stuff in the house. Just his items that he left and his deceased father's possessions. WHAT THE HELL HAPPENED?!? This asshole has made everything horrible for me and the kids. He does not want to pay child support and is going to fight it in court, he took the car and we are forced to use the bus because I cannot afford a car, he only spends a few hours with our son (the one that is talking to him) on the weekend when he can fit him in and he is talking about me like I am the devil herself to anyone that will listen. Now he wants to abandon the tactics of taking all the electronics, bedroom and living room furniture and just settle for his DVD's and few clothes he no longer wears? My best friend told me don't question it. She says that as long as he is not doing anything to cause us anymore pain, just let it be. I understand her logic but this change is perplexing.
When I woke up this morning, I told myself today and everyday afterward is going to be a good day for me. I am not going to harp on what I cannot fix. There is a reason that man is no longer in our lives and I have to make our lives from here on out the happiest and most fulfilling they can be.
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Sounds familiar. When my wife left she moved into her moms for a bit. She was telling my daughter she needed this from the house, this certain clothing item another day etc etc...this was EARLY in the breakup. One day for some much needed therapy I got some large heavy duty contractor bags and stuffed them full of ALL her clothes, dvds, etc..then told her they are in the garage come get them or Im donating them. Got sick of the onesy twosy BS. She scheduled some help from my father in law ( a great guy by the way I still talk to him) and I let her in for about 4-5 hours to get stuff she wanted. After she got her apartment she wanted back in to get more which I was hesitant but let her back in (i was gone both times, my daughter was there). I then confirmed with her THATS IT. Im not running Supermarket Sweep at the family home. Frustrating!
You are a good person. When he left I made him leave the keys and he has not stepped over my threshold since. I refuse to allow him in and out access to my home. I broke the NC binge I have been having and texted him a few hours ago to let him know his possessions will be in the driveway Saturday afternoon. After that, I hope the only communication we have is concerning our sons. I am ready to have him and the toxicity that accompanies him out of our lives. Thanks for your support.