TERRIFIC TUESDAY Today has been a pretty bad day. I actually had to call the police on my son. He was trying to punch me in my face. The officer came and talked to him he calmed down for a while. Then started up again. I called my sister she says I really dont know how you deal with this. She thankfully stayed on the phone with me. I tried calling his father Yeah big mistake. He started screaming obscenties at me so I yelled back. then my son went ballistic About 2 minutes later he said I want to call my father and tell him I dont want to see him anymore. So he calls him and says I dont feel like coming over on Sunday. His father asked why my son said because since I have been seeing you I have been acting up his father says did you mom tell you to tell me that my son was like no then his dad says "what the f are you talking about" This is between you and your mom In that demeaning voice he uses. My son says fuck you and hung up. Now I know that it is not right for him to speak to his dad this way, but when his dad called me back and told me I said well how does it feel? I was not being a smart ass or anything just want him to understand. He says He never talks like that to me this is what you guys do. Meaning me and my son. Yeah really dont talk that to my son. The thing is instead of saying to my son to knock it off he is yelling at me. He is yelling at me that I have told everybody he does not do anything so he is not going to do anything. I said You should of been at the iep meeting he says i know i already heard about from the lawyer. He is yelling at me saying how many times have you called the cops on our son. I said once he agues with me I explained Today was the first time the last time they came with the ambulance and you called the cops the first time on me. He also asks if I want my son to live with him. Of course I dont want my son to live with him. He cant even take care of himself, cant come to meetings, does not go to the hospital when my son was in it twice. Now he was asked about this before by the delegate he said no. the reason why he even mentioned this is because the child support went up and he has to get medical insurance for my son.
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I wld just ignor his father sounds futile w/him.It\'s hard but compose and think.I\'m sorry about today I\'m just glad your son did NOT hurt you.I relate we can\'t leave our children..so we hang in there..
I\'m so sorry you are going thru this. My ex used to pick Ryan up and be back home in minutes utterly infuriated with Ryan...Ryan was 4! It conitinued and was always my fault, my parenting...naturally it had nothing to do with his constnt abandonment of Ryan, his physical anger of throwing things, kicking things, yelling and screaming...When Ryan was 3 he asked if daddy could come to our house. When I asked why, he said, \"Because our house is not a yelling house.\" The last I tried to enlist his dad in anything, I let Ryan stay with him for a few days each week...came to find out he was drinking & smoking pot in front of Ryan.
I understand your frustration and I agree with beverlyann17...ignore him as much as possible...only deal with him when required by the courts so they can\'t come back on you.
Can\'t remember if we\'d met, but I posted a journal of Ryan realizing how he takes his anger, saddness and frustration toward his dad out on me...he hasn\'t talked to his dad since. Oh, how I hope you can get some rest...feels like a war zone, doesn\'t it?! I hope tomorrow is better.
xxxx,
Lynn