I am so suprised I slep at all last night.   Here are some more events of yesterday that I was just too emotional to right.  This is for the people who Have idiot father's.  Note I am not male bashing I just have experience with this gender.  I know there are mom's that are the same way. Ok, anyway,  Yesterday while waiting at the center I went and got lunch next door for my son and sister.  I decided to call the sperm donor I mean father waith no I mean sperm donor.  I explained too him that our son is going to the hospital. I also explained some other suggestions that they reccomended which were some of the same the advocate recommended a few days ago that I tried to talk to him about.  He would not hear it. Oh the suggestion is that my son go to emotional support classes in the public school system. Now I am not lieing I understood his concerns, but at this point I am about to try anything.  So, in the doctors office with our case manager that we got yesterday thanks to my wonderful advocate.  She mentioned it as well about the one that she like liked how the doctor, the program ect.  She addressed my concerns which were one in the same of the father I mean sperm donor.  For example, would the other kids know he was in the class, is it also for kids that dont have much mental copassity ( i hope that was a nice way of saying without offending anyone) ect.  So while outside freezing I am trying to explain he starts yelling YOU ARE NOT GOING TO DO THAT.  I did not say I was.  Did he offer to come down and wait NOPE.We waited some more.  Got to the hospital where my son became agiated they threatened to have him removed, use restraint, and also give him something.It just so happens yesterday was visiting day and my son needed clothes.  So I called you know who the sperm donor and explained the events.  I told him I was going down for visting hours and if he wants to meet me somewhere he can follow me down. - The last time my son was in the hospital 3 hours away and the issue was he did not want to go done with me and his car could not make it.  this hospital is 30 minutes away.  Of course he came up with an excuse I am sure it took him all day to think of. - His pipes are frozen. I mean the pipes under his trailer.  So he says when is visiting after I tell him he is like well you go down today and I will go down Thursday.  I am like it is not an either or thing.  IDIOT.  Like i am going to let my son think I am rejecting him.  My son knows that yesterday only parents could come down he knows that I probally asked.   The conversation continues with me trying to explain classes He starts scream I remain come I am like what the F I have enough to deal with and the stupid court system is making me do this.  I tried to explain a few more times I say hey I have an idea how about you let me talk and I will tell you when I am done and then respond.  Nope more yelling  I am like I just want to explain what the professionals are saying.  He says in his "you are a stupid bitch" tone do you believe everything you hear.  The call ended with him saying or rather screaming I cant handle this right now and hangs up.Did he call back last night to see how his son was? NOPE  and I am not calling. The GAL better listen too me this is bullshit they wonder why my son is so aggresive towards me.  Ahhhhh take a look.  They blame MY home for my son's actions.  I dont think so my son did a hell of a lot better when sperm donor was not around each time he wasnt around BETTER and the stupid system is putting him through this again.  I think the judge should call him what he is A sperm donor.  Yes father's have rights but Sperm donors have know rights Somebody please put it on the books. Ok I am done with my rant.  which is for the people mainly over in the single parent board who upset with their kid's dads that are not around.  This is what you have to look forward too if you force the issue. Be glad you are free.  Be glad you can feel safe.  I felt free and safe for 2 years when he wasnt around.  But I guess who am I just the mom who has been here since day one.Ok one more rant you know all I hear is the system is set up for moms yeah I have one thing to say about that: BULLSHITTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! If it were they would of listened to be about the abuse but nooooo they say that its in the past and the GAL had the nerve to say she did not think it was important.  Yep ahhh take a look at your statistics.  Men who abuse their wife or girlfriend are much more likely to abuse their kids up to 75 % people.  Man but because he hasnt yet as far as they know nothing happens.  ahh lets wait for my child to get hurt and then do something. Idiots. Ok I better go find  something happy to post. Illllllllll be back lol