well here is the update.  I just got back from taking my son to the hospital.  The insurance said they will only pay for two days.  Supposedly the law is that unless child or adult say they are going to kill themselves or someone else AND have a plan they wont pay for hospitlization.  I say what about all the people that have killed themselves and I have never said anything.  Would it not be better to prevent that or prevent it even getting anywhere near that point.  Would it not save them money.  The way I look at it is that the further my son gets the harder it will be to get him back. I am missing him sooooooooooo much I hate it when he is not here even amongst the chaos.   I know in my heart this is what he needs.  It breaks my heart knowing that I cant fix this I feel like a failure as a mom because I cant or dont have the means to do so.  Atleast I know my son is safe tonight.  Thank you all for your support.