Well, my efforts at unleashing myself on the outside world, i.e. the opposite sex, to make my "world" the same as the way I'm trying to make my wonderful interior, seem to be working!  I love getting out, meeting people, and infusing exactly the kinds of positive vibes, love, sweetest, physical strength, intellectual stimulation, sexual excitement, etc. onto women, and women seem to respond very well to it!  The women that I'm interested in are already taken, but at least I know my "flirting technique" works well...I love looking right into a woman's sparkling eyes and keeping the conversation going so as to keep her excited and keep her laughing...This technique works well for making guy friends too, without the sexual excitement part, of course...guys seem to be lower-maintenance than gals, just give us a beer, a football game and something to satisfy our penises, and we're completely happy, but we guys are hardly uncomplicated either; we have our quirks and insecurities too...The old temptation to filter my "world" through my own negative thoughts, doubts, insecurities, etc., and withdraw into my old self-doubting and self-loathing interior, and continue to be shy, are always there, but I love pushing through that comfort zone and focusing on other people in a positive way...keeps me glued to this world instead of wanting to depart it and join my dearly beloved brother in heaven...I'm sure you guys all grapple with these "interior/exterior" issues too, when you have to go out in the working world to make a buck, and in social situations where you want people to like you when you're not sure if you like yourselves...