update
So yesterday the wife and bf had a big fight. Turns out he has some health problems with sciatica being one of them so he asked ex to get him some narcotics from a relative and from a friend so she did but she later regretted doing so. She assumed he was going to take one pill at a time but instead he took 10 pills at a time! That really pissed her off plus she bounced some checks.
I had to go into town and she asked me to turn in her change and deposit it in her checking account so I did. She had $151 in change (They have a change counter at the bank) and after I made the deposit, she was only $15 in the green! I use to keep telling her you can only spend that money once! So she has been relying on me.
We had an appt to get the dog fixed yesterday as well and where she had no money, I offered to pay which nearly cleaned out my checking account. The dog had a reaction to the anesthesia and nearly died so the vet didn't do it yet it still costs me $84. She's laying next to me now, poor thing!
So by the end of the day, bf decided he had had enough and was going to move out. Ex knows I have been talking to women and is jealous, asking me for details which I refuse to divulge. She asks to come back to me and I said no. That made her mad and she did the "woe is me" crying routine looking for sympathy in order to get her way. I really believe she has sociopathic tendancies!
So she slept with him last night and this morning they were all lovey dovey. I gave them some money to go to the orchard and pick some apples and they were all happy :)
Thats the latest news. Sometimes it's a strain so I have to remember to pray for my own peace of mind and remind myself, it's not my problem and I have to stop bailing her out of her money problems.
Hope you all have a great day!
I had to go into town and she asked me to turn in her change and deposit it in her checking account so I did. She had $151 in change (They have a change counter at the bank) and after I made the deposit, she was only $15 in the green! I use to keep telling her you can only spend that money once! So she has been relying on me.
We had an appt to get the dog fixed yesterday as well and where she had no money, I offered to pay which nearly cleaned out my checking account. The dog had a reaction to the anesthesia and nearly died so the vet didn't do it yet it still costs me $84. She's laying next to me now, poor thing!
So by the end of the day, bf decided he had had enough and was going to move out. Ex knows I have been talking to women and is jealous, asking me for details which I refuse to divulge. She asks to come back to me and I said no. That made her mad and she did the "woe is me" crying routine looking for sympathy in order to get her way. I really believe she has sociopathic tendancies!
So she slept with him last night and this morning they were all lovey dovey. I gave them some money to go to the orchard and pick some apples and they were all happy :)
Thats the latest news. Sometimes it's a strain so I have to remember to pray for my own peace of mind and remind myself, it's not my problem and I have to stop bailing her out of her money problems.
Hope you all have a great day!
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bob i never took you for a whiner :P
i dont get it, you dont love the woman you dont wanna get back with her then what on earth ru giving her money for
I\'m glad you continue to tell her no about reconciling, but you really need to close your wallet. These two will never learn to stand on their own if they know you are there to bail them out. You shouldn\'t deplete your funds for her. I think you have the patience of a saint--there is no way in hell I could live with my ex and his skank ho/now wife.
bob you need to move out and close them out.....codependency is developing
Geez Bob I used those change counters and they are a pain in the Assets! I would never offer to turn in anyone\'s change and second think even doing my own!
As for reminding yourself, you have heard this quote before....\"If you always do what you\'ve always done, you\'ll always get what you always got.\" It is time to change your reaction to the ex-wife and BF.
And how stupid is she for finding him drugs? I am betting he is addicted...but you know the traits better than I. Time to pack your bags and leave while you are still sane!
Bob: Wishing you a peaceful weekend. You must concentrate on your precious dog and yourself.
Seriously, man. Well said above.
Bob, step back, look at this objectively (if you can). What the HECK is going on here? This is SO unhealthy for you! I can\'t believe any Judge would force a man to live in such an emotionally abusive situation. Get outta there!
Even if moving out you will be taking a hit and have to start from scratch its more healthier for you emotionaly.There will all ways be reasons to put it off but the sooner you do so the better off you will be!!As far as your ex is concern she made her bed now she has to lie in it.
I understand what you guys are saying but maybe you don\'t see the whole picture like I do. I look at things from a different perspective. Thanks!