bad day

Wife's bf moved his washer and dryer into our house.  Wife and him thought his maytags were of better quality then our used ones were.
I actually helped them lift on them with my bad foot to take the strain off my wife but probably shouldn't have.  After I got done helping,  I reinked my color cartridge on my printer and didn't realize it had a leak and it got on the living room rug so I immediately got some rubbing alcohol to try to clean it up.  Well the wife went ballistic as all 3 of us frantically tried to clean it up.  She seems to think she is getting the house in the divorce settlement for some reason so she thought I was intentionally trying to destroy HER home! I kept telling her it was an accident and that insurance would buy a brand new one. But she doesn't want to risk having her insurance rate increased.
Why does life have to be so rough?

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drafter
drafter

Why do you help them use you??
deleted_user
deleted_user

Wow after your kindness to try and help....think of yourself too..you need to be #1. As for her nasty blow up about the rug....it will come back to bite her in the rear. Take a deep breath and remember it was a moment of ugliness and now focus on you and your needs. I am here for you!! hugs
deleted_user
deleted_user

Play one of your fav. songs....I\'m in the front row w/ a big smile. Let the music take you to your happy place!
Community Leaderbobinmaine
bobinmaine

Thankyou both and I know you are both right. I just need to put myself first.
OK Spa, going to grab my guitar and do that right now! :)
deleted_user
deleted_user

-----------> what Drafter said.
Community Leaderbobinmaine
bobinmaine

Lii, I don\'t know why!
MsViv
MsViv

Bob! Stop helping move in... Have you asked her why she thinks she\'s getting the house?
AFWC
AFWC

It\'s rough sometimes to make us stronger : )
JoyceMarilyn
JoyceMarilyn

OH MY GOODNESS! How long before it will be over. Whether you stay in the house or she does this needs to end for you peace of mind.
Look at the bright side...you should at least get a washer and dryer! Although I am almost sure they will not help you move it as you were kind enough to do.
HUGS!
arem
arem

Yes Bob let them do their own work.

Did they even ask you if you wanted them to move the BF\'s washer and dryer in? Or did they just make that decision on their own without asking you?

It\'s half your house, half your stbx\'s, and 0% the new BF\'s. He is a tenant, you and your stbx are landlords for the BF. If the previous appliances worked, there is no reason for them to move in these other ones without your agreement to it. If anything it is simply saving the BF money that he would otherwise have to pay to store them.

Just saying Bob - they are simply considering their interests and agenda and not yours at all. You have a 50% say in things - don\'t give that up. Make them move the bf\'s washer and dryer back out and re-install the old ones if you didn\'t want this in the first place. Don\'t let them railroad you. IMO they need to wait until the divorce is settled before they start playing house.

Hang in there Bob - don\'t sell yourself short.
dinahmorris
dinahmorris

Things are getting intense all right. Can you push the divorce ahead somehow? Why does she think its her house?
Dont let them push you out whatever happens.
xxxxx your fan!
annieheart
annieheart

Stop Helping,get some papers drawn up,Dont say yes to anything less than 5o/50.By allowing all this the court might look at it as you consenting to this life style.Go down and have that so called man evicted or throw him the hec out yourself.Take control!!!!I dont mean to be harsh just being a friend.I would file divorce papers on the grounds of infidelity
annieheart
annieheart

I just got an Idea play all cheating heart music when the wife is there with her bf.
deleted_user
deleted_user

Oh Bob - how awful... Please don\'t let them walk all over you. Thinking of you. Hugs - Jen
Kahlua13
Kahlua13

I don\'t know how you can stand to live with them in the house and even talk to them! You\'ve got a lot more patience than I do!!