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This morning I did some cleaning in my workshop and I experienced, what I think, was a panic attack. My chest got very heavy and I had trouble breathing. Felt like I couldn't get enough air in my lungs. . It didn't last very long but still it bothered me.
I am having trouble looking at the positive side of things and it's magnified by the overcast dreary day outside so feeling kinda depressed. Wife is gone with her lover. I am sure she is making a stop at the lawyers to drop off some papers that we signed which just said that I received the letter saying that my wife is asking for a divorce and please be agreeable in order to keep the costs down....ya right! As long as I get my half, I'll be happy. I should get all of it cos she is the one cheating on me (and her lawyer is unaware of that).
I am alone now and I hope I stay alone for awhile. I have a nervous stomach again so am having trouble eating. That will clear up in time, I am sure.
I am having trouble looking at the positive side of things and it's magnified by the overcast dreary day outside so feeling kinda depressed. Wife is gone with her lover. I am sure she is making a stop at the lawyers to drop off some papers that we signed which just said that I received the letter saying that my wife is asking for a divorce and please be agreeable in order to keep the costs down....ya right! As long as I get my half, I'll be happy. I should get all of it cos she is the one cheating on me (and her lawyer is unaware of that).
I am alone now and I hope I stay alone for awhile. I have a nervous stomach again so am having trouble eating. That will clear up in time, I am sure.
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Hang in there my friend.Things will improve.Sometimes down time is needed.We mourn our losses and then can start a fresh new start.Write down things you want to do and a plan.Than take steps in the right derection.Like the saying goes one door shuts another opens.you are in my thoughts!!!
Hang in their. We are all here for you.
I definitely agree that it sounds like a panic attack. I am so sorry you are going through all of this. I am sure that this is the cause of the tummy issues as well. Anxiety/panic attacks caused me to experience gastritis for a few months. I hope things get better soon. I hope you get some peace in all of this!
Look for the positive...things are moving along! Panic attacks are not fun so I hope you learn some breathing methods to help get you past them.
The support you guys give me is encouraging and means alot to me.
God Bless you all!
And I hope your lawyer is aware of this. AND I hope you are documenting everything.
Sorry to hear Bob - I hope you\'re feeling a little better now. Your situation is really stressful so it\'s not surprising that you might feel that way. I remember having that feeling early on in my separation. My ex had already started her relationship with the OM and I felt like I was being teamed up against. I didn\'t have anyone at the time that I felt I could really confide in and that is where DS really helped me to get things out and get feedback and support. It\'s really good that you\'re journaling and etc. Hang in there - wish you the best! We\'ll keep trying to lend our support!
If I didn\'t have the friends here that I have I probably would have commited suicide by now! When she brags about her new sex life, I find myself wondering what happened to ours in the past 25 years! Thanks Arem and Nancy!
Will you tell lawyer what has been happening? Would it feel disloyal to? I think he needs to have the full picture. Im another person rooting for you and I know all will come out well.
xxxxxx
Thankyou Dinah and yes I plan on telling her lawyer about her adultry right under my nose. I wonder what he\'ll say?
He could say, if you want to fight then it can be brought to court. It could mean that he will talk to her and advise her to make the split easy by going 50/50.
Either way, I think you will have a bit of a fight. But hold your ground and don\'t let her, the attorney or the bf intimidate you.
thanks viv, I won\'t be intimidated. hugs