update

Today I went to an AA meeting.  I shared my problems and picked up another phone number of a guy who told me he drank this stuff for many years meaning he has alot of experience with wife problems and divorce.  I will call him tomorrow after wify goes to work.
 Today she had a rough day at work and she vented on me but took it one step further by ragging at me for things that happened 15 years ago that had been forgotten and forgiven but I know what she is trying to do. She is trying to justify her actions in her own mind by pretending she is getting back at me for all of the bad things I have done in the past 30 years.  Today I told her she needed to have counseling and learn some coping skills because she doesn't handle stree like normal people do and she got all upset and more mad at me.  Now she is on the phone enjoying phone sex with her bf.