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My wife hasn't mentioned divorce lately and I think it's for 3 reasons. first, she can't afford it, 2nd she doesn't want to part with anything, 3rd, she doesn't want to be alone. Her bf lives 6 hours away and doesn't want to come up here.
She plans on going down there memorial day weekend, and thinks she is going to get a rental car to go down there and back with. Thats about a $500 trip and she doen't have that kind of money.
Ought to be an interesting weekend. She is scared to death to drive alone, especially on a long trip like that.
This morning I couldn't control myself and I let her know just how much her words cut like a knife. I overheard her talking about sex with her bf and she told him he was the best she ever had. I told her she might as well shove a knife through my heart cos that's just what it felt like to hear her say that.She cannot put herself in my shoes and understand how she is making me feel. She just turns it around and tells me I am making her feel bad when she is good to me etc.
I honestly don't know what to do. I have knots in my stomach constantly. I really don't want to live anymore but thats probably what she wants anyway, then she can move her boy toy up here to take my place.
Help!
She plans on going down there memorial day weekend, and thinks she is going to get a rental car to go down there and back with. Thats about a $500 trip and she doen't have that kind of money.
Ought to be an interesting weekend. She is scared to death to drive alone, especially on a long trip like that.
This morning I couldn't control myself and I let her know just how much her words cut like a knife. I overheard her talking about sex with her bf and she told him he was the best she ever had. I told her she might as well shove a knife through my heart cos that's just what it felt like to hear her say that.She cannot put herself in my shoes and understand how she is making me feel. She just turns it around and tells me I am making her feel bad when she is good to me etc.
I honestly don't know what to do. I have knots in my stomach constantly. I really don't want to live anymore but thats probably what she wants anyway, then she can move her boy toy up here to take my place.
Help!
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How can she even think she\'s good to you when she\'s doing what she\'s doing and adding salt to the wounds by throwing it right in your face? You don\'t deserve that kind of treatment, no one deserves to be disrespected like that. Don\'t allow her to turn this around on you. ((hugs))
I know leather but she believes what she is doing is ok, that\'s the sad part. She talks to me like there is something wrong with me for questioning what she is doing! She\'s lost her morals!
And her mind!
I know you shouldn\'t help her, but there are other means of transportation.. Bus or train.
Bob, she needs to seek out a therapist.. If she doesn\'t, then maybe you should talk to someone for your own sanity
Msviv I have been talking to many but just not a therapist. Problem with therapy is I always know what they are going to say before they say it. I was a social science major back in the day so what little therapy I have had didn\'t really help me beyond giving me someone to vent to. but thanks!
Something\'s wrong with this woman, she\'s not behaving \"normally\". I think you have more than sufficient grounds to tell her to get out of your house. I suggest, again, that you consult a divorce lawyer (NOT HERS, it\'s unethical for that lawyer to even suggest you go talk to him/her). WE teach others how to TREAT us. You\'re accepting serious abuse from her, WHY? I don\'t get it.
jill
Seems to me your wife is realizing she will not have everything and leave you penniless so she is slowing down and regrouping. It will be interesting as to how she manages to rent a car...I thought you had to have a credit card for that or am I wrong. You should watch that she does not apply for a credit card with your name on it. I think you should see a lawyer at least once to get some advice on how to protect your self.
Jill, I think being an ACOA (Adult child of alcoholic parents) has alot to do with how uch abuse I can take.
Joyce, it will be interesting to see if she goes through with her plans to actually go this weekend. She plans on renting a car and leaving ours to me, gas plus car rental and tolls, I figure around $500. There is no way she can afford that.
I have a good mind to tell her I will be out dating and partying myself while she is gone away.
BUT.... you don\'t party anymore and she knows that. Dating?!? Maybe, but NO parting! You\'ve come too far to back track now! Stay strong and be smart!
Thankyou AF. I know what you mean. It\'s often difficult to control my emotions. I always try to think things through first.