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The one thing that I hated all of my life and seem to be a victim of is verbal abuse. My alcoholic dad did it to me all through the years I lived at home and when I went to work in the shop, whenever I made a mistake which was not very often, my boss use to enjoy ridiculing me in front of my coworkers.
Now someone else is doing it in a group. At first I tried ignoring the problem hoping it would go away but that didn't work so I have quit the group and will never go back. Thats not why I am here!
Made me want to take a drink but then everything I was taught in counseling and in the iop class, kicked in and I knew axactly how to deal with the negative feelings.
I feel fine now and ready to go fight the 2 feet of snow outside my door!
Sigh!
Now someone else is doing it in a group. At first I tried ignoring the problem hoping it would go away but that didn't work so I have quit the group and will never go back. Thats not why I am here!
Made me want to take a drink but then everything I was taught in counseling and in the iop class, kicked in and I knew axactly how to deal with the negative feelings.
I feel fine now and ready to go fight the 2 feet of snow outside my door!
Sigh!
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No, don\'t drink. When you have a problem like that, you shouldn\'t seek to hide your distress in drink, or anything else that has been used as a coping mechanism. I used to lock it all away inside, put a big smile on my face and act like I found the verbal abuse funny. It didn\'t help, just like drinking won\'t. I think you should confront whoever is verbally abusing you. Confront the problem head on. The first time I did that it was like I\'d found a key to getting me through the problems! Now I never ever shy away from anyone who offends me- if they\'ve upset me, they know! And it\'s off my chest and out of my life, exactly where it needs to be!
No I didn\'t drink but it is what I felt like doing.
Hi Bob, I\'m sorry you are dealing with this. Good for you getting away from what was hurting you. I just want to say that I\'m here for you if you need me and I hope you feel better. I agree with sorceress I think you should confront it when you feel like it and then just move on, get it off your chest. Take care! :)
I already did confront it but it wasn\'t enough for me but thanks for your support sexyme
Come on Bob you better guy than that, walk tall let the other guy walk in your shadow :)
LOL Gart! Already said my piece and now moving on, thanks buddy!
Hi Bob! Been a while but I am back now.
Yes verbal abuse sucks and I\'m sorry you had to experience it all over again. It\'s amazing how those wounds from our childhood never really go away. But I\'m so proud of you for channeling your emotion on the snow instead of using a drink! I bet the exercise felt better anyway! :)
I have been sick with a cold for nearly two weeks now. When I was younger I would run with it but now that I am older and heavier, I have a harder time motivating myself. Exercise is always better.
I was wondering how you were handling all the snow.
Take care. Read that Florida was the only state without snow.
Go Florida!
Bubbles, if I could afford to, Iwould move to Florida. :)