Family.......
I don't understand why family have to say such cruel things to other family members. Sometimes it's just better not to say anything at all. They just don't understand my love for my animals. My pets are all I really have and just because Peaches is having a few health issues that are not serious you don't tell someone I would have put her down a long time ago........who says that to someone?? It has gotten to the point why bother talking to them at all. Not that they call me or anything like that. I guess I just need to stop calling them but sometimes I just want someone to talk too.
I have had to mourn Abby all by myself because my family think I should be over it by now. It's been over 5 months and I am not over it. I still have days where I just cry so hard missing her and nobody should be telling me to suck it up, it was just a dog. The hard part is that this is all coming from an Aunt who I grew up being very close too. I was closer to her then my own Mom but lately she had been saying a lot of things that are hurtful. I just wish I had one person who can understand how hurt and upset I am over losing Abby. Abby was always there for me and never made me feel like crap unlike family.
Abby I just miss you so much and would anything to have you for one more day. Don't worry because I won't just put Peaches down because she has tummy and constipation issues. What the hell is my family thinking but I should not be surprised as growing up I watched family members mistreat pets because they are as they say..... Just An Animal.
I have had to mourn Abby all by myself because my family think I should be over it by now. It's been over 5 months and I am not over it. I still have days where I just cry so hard missing her and nobody should be telling me to suck it up, it was just a dog. The hard part is that this is all coming from an Aunt who I grew up being very close too. I was closer to her then my own Mom but lately she had been saying a lot of things that are hurtful. I just wish I had one person who can understand how hurt and upset I am over losing Abby. Abby was always there for me and never made me feel like crap unlike family.
Abby I just miss you so much and would anything to have you for one more day. Don't worry because I won't just put Peaches down because she has tummy and constipation issues. What the hell is my family thinking but I should not be surprised as growing up I watched family members mistreat pets because they are as they say..... Just An Animal.
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I\'m sorry your family is so insensitive. Do what your heart tells you, not what other people think you should do. I\'d heard similar comments about Lady from others, too. Fortunately, my family understands the bond I had with Lady and are actually telling ME it will probably take at least a year before I\'ll recover. Allow yourself time to grieve and I hope Peaches is feeling better soon. fyi, A friend of mine told me pumpkin is a natural laxative.
You can judge a man\'s true character by the way he treats his fellow animals.
Paul McCartney
Thanks, It is going to take more then a few months if ever that I stop missing Abby. She was with me every day and it made me feel good to take care of her.
I have tried pumpkin and Peaches has been on Lactulose and Miralax but still has to go to the vet every month or couple of months for constipation. My Aunt was saying that to me because I just spend 40.00 on a bag of food from the vet and all the money for the vet visits have added up. I still can\'t believe she would say that to me and the thing is she has said it more then once and I\'m tired of it. They complain I feed and care for feral cats. Really they complain about every thing I do. My family has always been backstabbers.....they talk about me behind my back then if I\'m around they talk about my sister or someone else behind their backs. We are all adults and have our own lives so what does it matter what we do or how we spend our money. Anyway thank you again, I\'m just feeling so alone anymore.
so sorry your family are being like that with you,some people just have a terrible attitude towards animals,its usually their upbringing,the way their parents were with animals.i would lose my temper so much if a family member said that to me about my sick pet,its so insenitive,i cant blame you not wanting to contact them,your aunt should respect your feelings more and support you,its none of her business what you want to spend your money on,i would remortgage my home if clay had needed some kind of expensive treatment.i wouldn\'t bother telling them about my pet again if it was me,id rather come on here and talk to people who understand.judging be what your saying about them being backstabbers and all,i would say you get more love and support and loyalty from your pet than you do your family!! personally i would rather an animals company than some people,clay was my no.1 in my life with my kids.....he even came before my husband.he was the light in my life and some of my in-laws just dont get that,they would also say \"it was just a dog\".....not to my face though cause id throw them out of my house.as nancy says you just keep doing what your heart tells you and don\'t mind what anyone else says,its your life,your pet,your call.hope you can find a little peace,i know how you feel about abby,i am also still hurting so bad,near 6 months later.hugs to you xx
Wow I just noticed I typed a 5 instead of over 6 months. Abby has been gone just over 6 months and the pain is still there.
Thanks both of you for your support. Peaches is doing much better and she is even eating the new food so I am pretty happy about that. I think I will NOT be talking to my family about my pets anymore. They just don\'t get it. It\'s just hard to have been so close to my Aunt while growing up and for her to be so cold toward things that I like. In fact the older she gets the worse she gets. I can just imagine what they say about me behind my back. I will just come on DS when I want to talk about my cats and how much I enjoy having them around.......hugs to all my friends.
hello Angel, so sorry that you are not getting the support you need, and yes I too cry even now for my lost pets, time is not a solution, we miss them forever, the other day I was dusting their photos and cried , because I always love them and miss them, and yes my family ,they don\'t care about pets, if I mention it to my auntie, she never had pets, I really don\'t care much about her anymore, I find that she has no heart , even about me, I no longer tell her anything, about growing up and abuse***
I know how hard it is for you about \'\'\'Abby\'\', hope your cat gets well, the vet food is best, I too give my dogs the ,prescription food from hills, and eukanuba, for their stomach, its common sense, it depends how they feel.
YOU ARE NOT ALONE, HERE YOU HAVE FRIENDS THAT SHARE YOUR LOVE FOR ANIMALS, HUGS LUCY**
I am the same way about family members. You love your animals, so grieve the way you want to. You are so much of an animal lover and it shows. I wish you some peace and happiness. Hugs my friend.
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