60 degrees and should be warm all week!//went to church//facebook discovery
60 degrees outside. its night. it should be like this all week. yay! i always miss the south florida "winter" of cold december and january and then its summer. yay! miss that sooooo much. too bad its so crowded down there. the trade off up here is no hurricanes. i'm not with my cousins on oh, isn't it nice to have a cool night. actually, no, i freeze. below 80 i freeze, though i may be adjusting i'm not sure. i noticed this 60 things felt nice and a year ago i would still freak over cold 60. lol.
have been trying to spend time with the dogs and then walk them and then head to the other house. today, i stopped at church for the last sunday of ADVENT. advent like nativity fast, is the real holiday and i'm shocked its put aside so completely in usa that people don't know it exists. i'm sure the government does this to save money during this season (less government holidays to be paid to the people). if they didn't december, january, february and march would all be festivities and the only place you get that in usa is louisiana and parts of pensacola. 70 percent of the festivities in new orleans are free in december.
so, i stopped at church on the way home. they still have saturday breakfasts and they have a new fellowship room for $1 and $2 lattes and capacinos and all other kinds of specialty coffees. BEAUTIFUL by the way. there are 3 rooms total that i saw. all the purple colors are up in banners for advent. i ran into adn, i forgot she ushers and she ushered me in to take a look. then over to the coffee bar where her son works and donated the $1 for the decaf. i said to her don't buy me coffee, they have free coffee on the side (and i hadn't gone home yet to go to sleep. how do you explain that to church going people? lol.) i do miss the fellowship over there and they did a BEAUTIFUL job with it. tastefully done and prettier than the other church with the free tuesday breakfasts and dinners that i always forget to go to. i used to be better with all of this, what happened? lol. i think i liked church the old way, because it brought back a lot of memories as it was. and the new way, it feels like, okay where are the knights of columbus with their donuts? and where is the large kitchen with all the ladies and some men and whoever else attempting to cook....i'm not adjusted to this flashier version of church yet. they should advertise the change though, because young people would love this and the prices of the coffees would bring in many others. the same drinks at starbucks are over $5. its impressive. whoever runs the events and fellowship at this church is really good at it.
so i left quick and the woman who was talking to adn while we were getting pecan coffee cake (YUM!! it was excellent) told her i left. do you have to do that? the reason i always aim for the edge of all things is i hate the 'everyone knowing your business thing' and then the old saying, if they don't know your business they will invent it. i was TIRED. i went home, to my house across the road to sleep. geez. nice to sleep through without nutso walking the street and waking me up, and whoever else, every 3 hours and i don't think that is "accidental" i think she wants a free plane ticket back to guatamala and is trying to get herself deported. seriously.
i should have stayed i guess. i was there. they change the colors after today and light the final candle on christmas eve. nice to have a pretty wreath for it this year, i won a bid on an advent wreath this year and so far the animals haven't destroyed it. i figured they would.
found interesting things that i didn't expect to find on facebook. one of the girls found 4 of her siblings. she says, now she has two adopted siblings, 4 biological siblings and 2 foster siblings. she adores her foster mom from her high school years (because the deal she had with her adoptive parents (adopted from INFANCY) was that she would not visit during her teens. wth? what isn't on there is that she used to stay with her grandmother and grandfather most of the time growing up and that her grandfather had died over two years before all of this. (she was in boarding school in lake placid).
amazing how many people are finding others thanks to dna and internet. she is like mark from st. marks prep in maryland. she came home to visit and her bedroom was gone and the two rooms attached to it were also GONE and made back into part of her parents master suite (this is right before their divorce. her father was seeing a much younger first year lawyer from his lawfirm. this part i actually remember). she says even if she wanted to visit there was nowhere to sleep.
with mark, he was 14 and came home and his room was converted into his mother's sewing room. he had to sleep on the couch. his mother never liked him because she had wanted to get a divorce and instead got pregnant with him, so she always blamed HIM, and resented him, the kid. its so dumb, but it is what it is. so mark hightailed it to florida where his brother (and his brother's half brother from his mother's affairs) was on spring break and never left the half brother's apartment. this was common in south florida and the keys back in the 80's. in the keys a LOT of harvard drop outs stuff like that, who left civilization. to leave civilization today, you'd need to go live on a boat, its that crowded down south.
i was tempted to tell her about diane popping up out of nowhere in 2003, amongst others via my mom's biological father, who literally had a girl at every port, but i didn't. amazes me how many are like this. before dna i would have thought they were all lying. i'm similar to my aunts with that. its a lot to grasp though.
have been trying to spend time with the dogs and then walk them and then head to the other house. today, i stopped at church for the last sunday of ADVENT. advent like nativity fast, is the real holiday and i'm shocked its put aside so completely in usa that people don't know it exists. i'm sure the government does this to save money during this season (less government holidays to be paid to the people). if they didn't december, january, february and march would all be festivities and the only place you get that in usa is louisiana and parts of pensacola. 70 percent of the festivities in new orleans are free in december.
so, i stopped at church on the way home. they still have saturday breakfasts and they have a new fellowship room for $1 and $2 lattes and capacinos and all other kinds of specialty coffees. BEAUTIFUL by the way. there are 3 rooms total that i saw. all the purple colors are up in banners for advent. i ran into adn, i forgot she ushers and she ushered me in to take a look. then over to the coffee bar where her son works and donated the $1 for the decaf. i said to her don't buy me coffee, they have free coffee on the side (and i hadn't gone home yet to go to sleep. how do you explain that to church going people? lol.) i do miss the fellowship over there and they did a BEAUTIFUL job with it. tastefully done and prettier than the other church with the free tuesday breakfasts and dinners that i always forget to go to. i used to be better with all of this, what happened? lol. i think i liked church the old way, because it brought back a lot of memories as it was. and the new way, it feels like, okay where are the knights of columbus with their donuts? and where is the large kitchen with all the ladies and some men and whoever else attempting to cook....i'm not adjusted to this flashier version of church yet. they should advertise the change though, because young people would love this and the prices of the coffees would bring in many others. the same drinks at starbucks are over $5. its impressive. whoever runs the events and fellowship at this church is really good at it.
so i left quick and the woman who was talking to adn while we were getting pecan coffee cake (YUM!! it was excellent) told her i left. do you have to do that? the reason i always aim for the edge of all things is i hate the 'everyone knowing your business thing' and then the old saying, if they don't know your business they will invent it. i was TIRED. i went home, to my house across the road to sleep. geez. nice to sleep through without nutso walking the street and waking me up, and whoever else, every 3 hours and i don't think that is "accidental" i think she wants a free plane ticket back to guatamala and is trying to get herself deported. seriously.
i should have stayed i guess. i was there. they change the colors after today and light the final candle on christmas eve. nice to have a pretty wreath for it this year, i won a bid on an advent wreath this year and so far the animals haven't destroyed it. i figured they would.
found interesting things that i didn't expect to find on facebook. one of the girls found 4 of her siblings. she says, now she has two adopted siblings, 4 biological siblings and 2 foster siblings. she adores her foster mom from her high school years (because the deal she had with her adoptive parents (adopted from INFANCY) was that she would not visit during her teens. wth? what isn't on there is that she used to stay with her grandmother and grandfather most of the time growing up and that her grandfather had died over two years before all of this. (she was in boarding school in lake placid).
amazing how many people are finding others thanks to dna and internet. she is like mark from st. marks prep in maryland. she came home to visit and her bedroom was gone and the two rooms attached to it were also GONE and made back into part of her parents master suite (this is right before their divorce. her father was seeing a much younger first year lawyer from his lawfirm. this part i actually remember). she says even if she wanted to visit there was nowhere to sleep.
with mark, he was 14 and came home and his room was converted into his mother's sewing room. he had to sleep on the couch. his mother never liked him because she had wanted to get a divorce and instead got pregnant with him, so she always blamed HIM, and resented him, the kid. its so dumb, but it is what it is. so mark hightailed it to florida where his brother (and his brother's half brother from his mother's affairs) was on spring break and never left the half brother's apartment. this was common in south florida and the keys back in the 80's. in the keys a LOT of harvard drop outs stuff like that, who left civilization. to leave civilization today, you'd need to go live on a boat, its that crowded down south.
i was tempted to tell her about diane popping up out of nowhere in 2003, amongst others via my mom's biological father, who literally had a girl at every port, but i didn't. amazes me how many are like this. before dna i would have thought they were all lying. i'm similar to my aunts with that. its a lot to grasp though.
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it appears all of this was a total SPLIT in that family. her adoptive father and brother and herself are in touch. and her adoptive sister and mother are in touch. then she is in touch with her biological siblings and foster siblings and foster mother. wth? and she handles all of this. wow! i think, that had her mother ONLY wanted to adopt a baby to get pregnant, once she was pregnant, at the very least she should have given custody to the grandparents who adored her and be done with it. living with that much misery for so long (both of them and its never the child\'s fault, seriously) makes no sense at all. she should read that book or at least the poem on toxic people because that is what that is. and it doesn\'t matter \"why\" they are like that. it is what it is. if the person is toxic the answer is to avoid or stay away from that person, not live with them. and that goes for both of them. this bit with therapists saying to piece it together is for the birds and ditto with social service. you only live once, you CUT OUT THE CANCER and toxic people are basically poison/cancer. doesn\'t matter \"why\" its over and done. there are a zillion friends out there that we haven\'t met yet and if you fill that space with toxic people there is no space left for the real people. you have to end it and flee. lol.