Quick update.
It's been...a nightmarish couple of weeks. Lots of stress, lots of grief. Overall, though, things have been getting better. The GF and I are doing ok. The OW tried a dramatic text last night, when she was probably drunk, which makes me worry she'll try something dramatic again. Unfortunately, one of my GF's acquaintances, who pretends to be her friend, has decided that its her business to spread around what happened to anyone who will stand still long enough. So...joy. *shrug* I guess it's a consequence of my actions, but as it's upsetting my gf, I told her to grow the hell up and shut the hell up, or I will do my best to make life difficult for her, or at least try to get her to shut up. The GF's mum visited last weekend. It was a pleasant visit, her father and stepdad were there too. Her mum is the only one who knows, but her mum is more supportive than anything, trying not to judge her daughter's relationship, or to reduce people to their mistakes. She'll be coming back next weekend, that may be fun, even if a little awkward.
Life is hard. Life goes on. My job and my #1 responsibility right now is to continue to heal my relationship, not to deal with other people's BS.
"I acknowledged my sin to You, and I did not cover my iniquity. I said I will confess my sins unto the Lord, and You forgave me the guilt of my sin. So let everyone who is Godly pray to You while You may be found, then surely when the mighty waters arise, they will not reach him. You are my hiding place, You protect me, and You surround me with redemption songs."
It's been...a nightmarish couple of weeks. Lots of stress, lots of grief. Overall, though, things have been getting better. The GF and I are doing ok. The OW tried a dramatic text last night, when she was probably drunk, which makes me worry she'll try something dramatic again. Unfortunately, one of my GF's acquaintances, who pretends to be her friend, has decided that its her business to spread around what happened to anyone who will stand still long enough. So...joy. *shrug* I guess it's a consequence of my actions, but as it's upsetting my gf, I told her to grow the hell up and shut the hell up, or I will do my best to make life difficult for her, or at least try to get her to shut up. The GF's mum visited last weekend. It was a pleasant visit, her father and stepdad were there too. Her mum is the only one who knows, but her mum is more supportive than anything, trying not to judge her daughter's relationship, or to reduce people to their mistakes. She'll be coming back next weekend, that may be fun, even if a little awkward.
Life is hard. Life goes on. My job and my #1 responsibility right now is to continue to heal my relationship, not to deal with other people's BS.
"I acknowledged my sin to You, and I did not cover my iniquity. I said I will confess my sins unto the Lord, and You forgave me the guilt of my sin. So let everyone who is Godly pray to You while You may be found, then surely when the mighty waters arise, they will not reach him. You are my hiding place, You protect me, and You surround me with redemption songs."
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I\'m so sorry that the last of weeks have been hell for you.
The best part is that your GF wants to work it out with you.
Please continue to work on you relationship.
Big hugs to you.
One day at a time.
Love your bible verse dude.- Keep working, keep striving keep being humble- humility always wins. Be Blessed - GaC
Hey Need2Grow...I feel your pain bro. I had a relationship with a toxic OW. She remained in the picture for a long time. Eventually I had to block her number on my iPhone, which iOS7 recently allowed, as well as facebook. She also had drinking issues, as well as myself. Don\'t get me wrong...I wasn\'t innocent in any of this, but I tried to break it off and move on and the OW just wouldn\'t let it go. I made a ton of mistakes with her...and apologize and will feel remorse for it for the rest of my life. But everyone has to move on....!
I wish you the best man...this is a good place and I\'ve found some support from people already....and I\'ll try to support people the best I can.
My best advice is to also try not to get upset about what other people say. There\'s really nothing you can do to control it, you only look pissed off. Just accept what you\'ve done, make amends if possible and leave the troublemakers where they belong. Soon you will be old news...and they will be on to someone else. Best thing you can do is not give them anything else to talk about. Nothing.
Again, good luck and keep posting. Journal. Get things out....don\'t be alone.