2:30 pmToday has been a much better day than yesterday. I still don't feel the best, I am having sinus congestion caused by allergies, but I think a big part of me getting sick also has to do with stress. Every since I really found out that my stbx is in a committed relationship with someone, I have been ill. Both physically and emotionally. For me, being emotionally unstable takes a toll on my physical health.Anyway, I have met someone that I feel I have really connected with. He is also divorced, since January. And he has 3 kids. He is an awesome person of what I know so far and somehow, I feel that there is a strong spiritual connection between us. But I am so scared to really move on. I am not sure that I want to move on. I want to heal from this divorce, but do I really want to be in another relationship, that could fail just like the last one I was in? When this man seems to be everything that I have ever wanted in a man, why is it so hard to let my heart care about him? I can tell that he cares about me and I am afraid of this really going somewhere.  Can someone tell me how to do this? How am I to still love my stbx and love a new man? How can I be with another man and not compare him to my stbx? How can I start fresh with someone and not let the bad things from my last relationship influence the new things that could be good? I need some guidance.