Cali,

I appreciate your reply, and actually admire your containment at this moment in your life.

I just want to say avoiding this behavior Is a boundary to protect myself from the toxic resentment i feel from the imbalance. That resemtment was a huge part of my reasoning to relapse. So this boundary is to protect both of us for now. If we are both being asked to give up oral sex for the rest of our lives, and it keeps us safe, the I am ready.

If I am being asked to give it up for the rest of my life because she thinks its gross, but she is neither willing to try to "acquire a taste for it" like every woman I have ever heard that enjoys it had to, i am not that mature.

If she thinks it's degrading then she must have some concerns about the same act being degrading for me, right?