1/14/08We are doing well. Working different shifts and only seeing each other on the weekend, helps. I'm sure. We actually anticipate and look forward to saturdays since we do not see each other ,literally mon-fri. Absence makes the heart grow founder. We all tend to write injournals when we are upset,anxious, and distraut for therapy. So I decided to write when things are normal and actually good. I know there are underlying issues that we sweep under the rug and not deal with. But hopefully we can deal and maybe finally get some counseling so the issues are brought out to the table.
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2/18/08
we are not doing well. We should be enjoying our new home, re-building our relationship! I no longer want to be forced to live with his 18 yr old daughter, who clearly doesnt like me,and doesnt hide that fact. I work too hard to come home to a place that I dread, because of her. Husband said he no longer is taking cell phone to work,at night,so I cannot call him to complain about her. He feels I nag and complain and make him miserable, I feel he is not caring or considering my feelings at all. He said if there was an ultimanum ,where I wanted her out, he would go too, he would chose her. She is 18 yrs old and is the one sabatoging, but she wins. She gets away with supposedly joking about killing me and the baby if i got pregnant,husband ignores it. He allows it,until i demand he discuss it with her weeks later. I am losing major faith in him. I had a choice to allow her to come live with us, I said yes, for him,now I lose!! I now have no choice ,even though I gave it a fair chance, unless I want to lose him.
I\'m sorry about the trouble your are having between you and your husband and stepdaughter. I never had to deal with that myself. That is no fair of him to say he would choose his daughter over you. At eighteen she could live on her own and not cause anyone problems. You have your marriage and your son to think of. Good Luck to you. At this age they are so manipultive.