quick update:we moved out of condo and living with my parents right now in limbo.  I received a transfer with AA,,was laid off in Ct. but got a call to go to DFW airport in TX. At first we thought what perfect timing, and we were going.  But my son's dad and grandparents are here so I felt too guilty taking him away ,even though we fly on my airline passes. I backed out, and now we are buying a way too expensive house here in MA.  I work FT and will not beable to work PT ,as I wish to, with this mortgage.  Im stressing over the cost of this house but the market is so crazy, I am very picky and cant seem to settle for less. hahahaha.  The marriage seems steadily well, ,,but his daughter is coming to live with us in the new house 04jul weekend for good. That will be the test of our relationship. stay posted!