why cant women truly have friends? I know that this is going to be a bit ornery,but havesnt anyone noticed that when a group of men go out(even to have a pizza) MEN HAVE FUN AND I AM JEALOUS! Why cant we? Why are us women always complaining and gossiping? Cant we have fun like men do? And the same thing goes for friendship.Hasnt anyone noticed that men can stay friends with one person for 30-to 40 years and some of us are lucky to even have a close friend.I had friends all of my life.It was the 1950s.I was going to Saint Annes and i met 3 girls.One of the girls her name was Eileen and we became like sisters.We were very close.But in the 1958...her father got transferred to South Carolina and this wasnt a good move for the family.They felt betrayed and in the 1950s there was a clannish atomosphere about outsiders in this town.I saw Eileen in 1958 and we wrote.Then I saw her again in 1968....that was the last time...until I got a letter in 1978......she explained that she was married now and had children and that was the last time I heard.I was so hurt.But i learned a hard lesson.And the lesson is this...people dont keep in touch with others like they used to and it is good to have friends...but friends can grow apart and when this happens...it is better not to pursue it.I cant pursue it.I dont know where she is and ever since Brad died....I am busy doing other things...but hanging out with the girls like I used to when I was 30 does not appeal to me and I do all of my shopping including the food alone.I did go shopping one day when Brad was alive...we were out all day and it was a waste of time for me because not on ly did she not discuss what i wanted to talk about...she just quit talking at the end of the day and it ended in silence.