I don't know what to do with David, the last 3 nights he has been awful. We are trying to get him back in his bed and the last 3 nights he has very loudly and rudely argued aboout sleeping with us, all we are asking is that he make an effort to start in his bed, night before last he was laying at foot of our bed and i just asked him to move up and lay the right way and he went off, screaming and yelling(that's been a problem), last night he was screaming at the top of his lungs and banging the wall, he can be so hateful for such a sweet kid. He brings everything around to Suzette. Now when Suzette was younger she alweays brought everything around to bio-dad never there and grandma who passed when she was 5, her counsler taught me then that it was her way of getting out of troub;e or a chore and that while that stuff may be bothering her it is not that bad at that time and to just keep saying things like "regadless of that...", and  "never the less...", she was so frustrated at one pioint she stomped down the hallway saying "never the less, never the less, i don't even know what that means", but it did work. I am thinking i may need to try that with him, will talk to counsler first, Suzette had not seen her dad for 12 yrs and grandma had been gone for 10 so it was old wounds, not nothing as fresh as David's wounds. Most of the problems we are having with him are old ones but seem intensified now, not to mention my head has been up my butt and he has been getting away with too much last few mo.  To top that off, I have said we live next to farm shop of landlord, right next only driveway seperating, hubbys bro works there to and his kids are there all the time(the in-laws), I try to keep David away from there as there have been windows broke that he end up getting blamed for, while i am in no way saying he is perfect, or above breaking windows, the in-laws kids are perfect(according to parents) and even though Chris(the mom) has watched her kids do something then say they didn't putting all blame on whoever was with them and if they were alone they didn't do it(have caught her doing same thing when she has done wrong, the one that stole my kids meds), any way, apparently yesterday one of kids drained $4000.00 worth of chemicles on ground and when hubby was leaving for work landlord called him over, told him what happened then said if he catchs David on shop grounds we will be evicted, no if, ands, or buts. In-laws kids aren't alllowed over there either, we'll see how long that lasts. Either it will be more peaceful with less company here or kids will have to stay over here whole time while mom is over with dad(wish for first choice).  I just don't know what to do, David swears he didn't do it, saw tub draining but thought farmers did it, he has been lying so much and my judgement has not been the best lately. He is so angry all the time, i worry so much if he can't find a way to express it. I don't know what we'll do if we have to move either, i hate to move, just keep David in the house til it blows over(hopfully it will)  Anyway just venting, and in-laws just called they're on their way over so i better go(not even dressed yet). hoping all have a good day. luv and hugs