well so im talking to my friend amanda. she's the one that im really close to and that just moved out to LA to try acting and stuff. umm so it really bothers me but she's kind of got herself into drugs and that all just really scares the shit out of me. my heart is literally breaking and i want to cry and i want to tell her how much this hurts me. im just so mad and like heart broken. she would talk about how she wouldn't get into that stuff and her acting coach told her not to and she talkes so highly of her acting coach and i never thought amanda would. and i just thought she'd make better choices. im just so mad i want to shake her and wake her up. she's making so many bad choices that i can't stand it. her husband doesn't know and he can't know cuz she doesn't think they would survive it and im not for sure they would either but i also know her husband and he would do anything for amanda so idk if he woudl leave her. ugh idk what to do. i mean i can't do anything cuz if she wants to do drugs then that's up to her and all i can do is be here for her but that just doesn't feel good enough. she's not even the same amanda anymore. idk what to do.
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u cant change her back hun..so do not try...if u dont like the person shes become, its time to cut ties....
i don\'t want to cut her lose i don\'t think i could handle it. she say\'s it\'s just a fase and isn\'t worrie about it. so im trying not to be. if she things she\'ll get over it then i believe her.
what kind of drugs is she into? maybe it\'s not as bad as you think?
Just be her friend and try everytime you talk with her to tell her how drugs can harm her and that she could lose her husband. She probably needs you more now than ever just listen to her and be her friend that is all you can do. Just pray for her and maybe she can overcome this.
hmm she told me what she was using but i can\'t remember what she told me. we decided that we shouldn\'t talk about the whole drug thing because it really upsets me and we just get into an argument. but im still just gonna keep asking every now and then. i dont want to know the details i just want a yes or no answer ya know? she\'s strong i know she can get over this is she wants too.
be careful hun if ur still planning on going out thre for your vac
Well if shes your friend and you wish for her to stay that way, and you convied your feelings about how you feel about the whole thing and shes being respectful and not telling you unless you ask, then I think it should be ok. I know you wanna be there for her and its hard with her not being where you are any more. But you can still just tell her you are there for her but you just wish to not know about the drugs unless you ask to see how she is doing recovering. (if thats the case not sure.) If she wants to kick what ever it is, just be there. Be supportive, and be her friend. She will need people to care and be there for her as much as THEY can. If you do plan on being there while she might be using, you may wanna re think this. It may be best to stay where you are until she can get the help SHE needs. OK? I know its hard to see a good friend lose their way, dont let it get you down. People change, they try new things, and sometimes they make mistakes.
HUGS
she doesn\'t use all the time just every once in a while. she doesn\'t see it as a big deal so i guess i\'ll just believe her. ya we decided not to talk about it ever. but i still would like to know every once in a while if she\'s still using so i\'ll just ask her and tell her to just tell me yes or no. she wouldn\'t use while im there i know that for sure. ya i\'ll always be here for her and she know\'s that and i know she\'ll always be there for me as well. she\'s just trying out her \"bad side\" she say\'s. she\'s always been the good girl, the one that never really did anything bad, was alway\'s there for people and now i guess she\'s just being care free and allowing her \"bad side\" come out and that\'s fine i just wish it wasn\'t with drugs but that\'s her choice and i\'ll just have to be ok with that.