-In Mental Health Disorders, as in many things, we grieve a loss of sorts. We lose our security, our sense of the world, and our sense of justice. This process is unfamiliar to many of us, especially anger.
-Anger is an emotion many of us are taught to supress. In many trauma cases, we are taught by our tormentors that we are not supposed to be angry. That if we are angry it should be with ourselves for 'doing this' to them (note the reality reversal).
-When we learn that what has happened is not our fault and begin a rebirth, many of us relive the grieving process because it was not processed correctly the first time.
Stages of grief:
-Denial (this isn't happening)
-Anger (why is this happening)
-Bargaining (if this stops, I will ..)
-Depression (I couldn't care less)
-Acceptance (I'm ready for a new life)
DS
"The facts expressed here belong to everybody, the opinions to me. The distinction is yours to draw."
-Anger is an emotion many of us are taught to supress. In many trauma cases, we are taught by our tormentors that we are not supposed to be angry. That if we are angry it should be with ourselves for 'doing this' to them (note the reality reversal).
-When we learn that what has happened is not our fault and begin a rebirth, many of us relive the grieving process because it was not processed correctly the first time.
Stages of grief:
-Denial (this isn't happening)
-Anger (why is this happening)
-Bargaining (if this stops, I will ..)
-Depression (I couldn't care less)
-Acceptance (I'm ready for a new life)
DS
"The facts expressed here belong to everybody, the opinions to me. The distinction is yours to draw."
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Interesting
This I have experienced Exactly
Also observing others taking care of someone who has gone into a chronic situation
I watched a show that was similar to bipolar ect. and it said, And I fully agree, when something like this, this huge change in you,, you have to find your \"new normal\" a new way of being normal, because the old one isnt going to work anymore. Does that make sense?
It makes perfect sense to me.
That is the difference between being a victim and a survivor. It can be a long journey from one to the other, but it is worth the trip. I am here is you want to message me and tell me about your story. Love and hugs friend.
Thanks for sharing.
Very well said -- and well received -- Thanks. Love to you, Mary :)
yeah, I beleive your opinion is true. I get to the \"anger\" wall and simply stop the process. I can\'t let the anger out because I\'m afraid of it, it\'s too big and maybe I\'ll hurt someone. Counseling has been very helpful but I think I need to explore where in the hec is the anger? Is it too big to let out? Will I be annihilated by it or do that to someone else?? I\'m definately stuck here and thank you for your opinions and thought...this is valuable to me...keep \'um coming...In Jesus love...sasha