my mom

I talked shortly with my mom, but she is still hard for me to understand. She is in pain I know, but relies on drugs too much. And now she thinks she needs to go to the same pain clinic as my dad. She told me she couldnt get steroid shots in her back because she has s bad kidney and diabetes.  Now she is getting the shot next week. And she has a birthday this thursday. I told her I was going to make her a sugar free every cake, but she said my dad is getting her a regular cake from sams club. Why, why does she need that big sugary cake! Then, when I ask her if she eats that kind of stuff , she says she dosnt. I dont get them! Just like they got a puppy, but my sister has it at her house cause they cant take care of it. Why! It makes no sence. Are they gonna get younger? No! My dad is 79 and she is going to be 72. A dog lives at least 10 years. My sister is just as messed up going along with it. I just feel like not even making the cake, and i didnt really know what to get het cause she has EVERYTHING! She is a hoarder! I am tired of trying to clean for them! I am tired of all the stuff! She IS mad at me for saying I couldnt handle my dad if she went into the hospital ever. She is taking things out on me and I am tired,  I cant take it with all the anxiety I get. And being bipolar dosnt help. She has never really  understood that either. I know she needs me for hugs, and I am the only one who gave her a bathwhen she broke her arm. But her being so over weight, I am just tired of life being surrounded  about food.  I know, she is a little mentally  ill too. Its just such a hard battle for me.