Over
Well it is over and I survived. Some moments were actually good although I was too stressed all day to really enjoy a lot of it.
We put up the tree in the morning while youngest was still sleeping to avoid the fight of him helping. I left the ornaments off so people could help decorate. Middle son did so happily, oldest out of duty, youngest 4 ornaments hung when forced. Although his girlfriend laughed herself sick over his baby's first Christmas ornament. Probably the best moment of the day.
Have no desire to hang all my kids' ornaments by myself next year so told hb getting a new tree and new decor and packing it all away. He told me no and I told him I wasn't putting it up at all. So he said ok. Tried to be closer to him and told him it was nice decorating with just him and gave him a kiss. He was affectionate all day without the usual butt pats and groping so I went along with it, but nothing ever changes when he crawled into bed he wanted sex. Sigh. It was late I was exhausted after the long day and so not interested. Hate that any little smile, or touch makes him so obnoxious.
We didn't frost cookies and hb had planned. I left that up to him. I was not fighting another battle. I did insist on a game no one really wanted to play, but they were all just sitting on computers. I think it went well. There was a lot of laughing.
Ate and planned to go look at lights. 25 degrees out and offered coats and hats, but everyone said they would be fine. Parked one block away and the whining started about how cold it was. Oh jeez what are they going to do on Dec 19th when they have a whole day planned outdoors that we are supposed to show up to. We only stayed at the park 30 minutes and people walked through the lights as fast as possible.
Came home and everyone just sat again. Still only one minor fight between middle and youngest and oldest and his wife did not bother to get up and hug middle son and wife goodbye. Middle son wife stood and waited, but they ignored her. Oldest's wife went off and took a shower for an hour and then spent 3 hours watching TV on her computer with headphones, but most of it was after everyone was gone except me. Oh well.
Today back to normal, fighting with youngest to go to church and chores and fill out job apps all of which he left until today. Tried so hard to get him to do some of them on Friday so wouldn't be so much today. Don't know what to do if he does not finish by 10pm as promised. It is in the contract to live in the house so no flexiblity in it. Throw him out? Cut off his internet? Take away the TV? He is just too old for the second two, but then he doesn't act like it.
Prayers for a "peaceful" day. Off to the first battle of getting him out of bed.
We put up the tree in the morning while youngest was still sleeping to avoid the fight of him helping. I left the ornaments off so people could help decorate. Middle son did so happily, oldest out of duty, youngest 4 ornaments hung when forced. Although his girlfriend laughed herself sick over his baby's first Christmas ornament. Probably the best moment of the day.
Have no desire to hang all my kids' ornaments by myself next year so told hb getting a new tree and new decor and packing it all away. He told me no and I told him I wasn't putting it up at all. So he said ok. Tried to be closer to him and told him it was nice decorating with just him and gave him a kiss. He was affectionate all day without the usual butt pats and groping so I went along with it, but nothing ever changes when he crawled into bed he wanted sex. Sigh. It was late I was exhausted after the long day and so not interested. Hate that any little smile, or touch makes him so obnoxious.
We didn't frost cookies and hb had planned. I left that up to him. I was not fighting another battle. I did insist on a game no one really wanted to play, but they were all just sitting on computers. I think it went well. There was a lot of laughing.
Ate and planned to go look at lights. 25 degrees out and offered coats and hats, but everyone said they would be fine. Parked one block away and the whining started about how cold it was. Oh jeez what are they going to do on Dec 19th when they have a whole day planned outdoors that we are supposed to show up to. We only stayed at the park 30 minutes and people walked through the lights as fast as possible.
Came home and everyone just sat again. Still only one minor fight between middle and youngest and oldest and his wife did not bother to get up and hug middle son and wife goodbye. Middle son wife stood and waited, but they ignored her. Oldest's wife went off and took a shower for an hour and then spent 3 hours watching TV on her computer with headphones, but most of it was after everyone was gone except me. Oh well.
Today back to normal, fighting with youngest to go to church and chores and fill out job apps all of which he left until today. Tried so hard to get him to do some of them on Friday so wouldn't be so much today. Don't know what to do if he does not finish by 10pm as promised. It is in the contract to live in the house so no flexiblity in it. Throw him out? Cut off his internet? Take away the TV? He is just too old for the second two, but then he doesn't act like it.
Prayers for a "peaceful" day. Off to the first battle of getting him out of bed.
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