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Soo.. I've kind of been back in contact and hanging out with a guy I was seeing a long time ago.
We met shortly after I moved here, so just over a year ago.. and we were seeing each other for quite a while, but never progressed into a relationship. At that point, I was not anywhere near over my ex - which is something I think is important when you start dating again after a serious intimate relationship. So I never brought it up and just kind of hoped he wouldn't because I liked having him around and hanging out (and obviously regular sex was nice to have too!) so I wanted to just keep doing what we were doing.
After a while he started being more... "boyfriendy" I suppose is the best way to put it. And I liked it and didn't at the same time. I also kind of felt like it wasn't fair to him for me to lead this thing somewhere it wasn't gunna go. And here's the part where I'm an ass hole - so I just stopped calling him. I felt bad about it but I didn't want to have the talk. I couldn't tell whether I really liked *him*, or if I was just on the rebound, because I did still think about my ex a lot... even when I was with the new guy.
Anyways, after about 8 months or so of not seeing each other we have started hanging out again. And the good part is that by this point I am over my ex and ready to actually date again. I've really been enjoying hanging out with him again. So we'll see where it goes. But it's going somewhere :) Last night we both told each other that we like each other. And he's a real sweet heart. He didn't even say anything about me just fucking off out of the blue - which I thought for sure he'd bring up when we started hanging out again. And I was NOT looking forward to having to explain myself, but would if he asks because he deserves an explanation if he wants one, far as I'm concerned.
We met shortly after I moved here, so just over a year ago.. and we were seeing each other for quite a while, but never progressed into a relationship. At that point, I was not anywhere near over my ex - which is something I think is important when you start dating again after a serious intimate relationship. So I never brought it up and just kind of hoped he wouldn't because I liked having him around and hanging out (and obviously regular sex was nice to have too!) so I wanted to just keep doing what we were doing.
After a while he started being more... "boyfriendy" I suppose is the best way to put it. And I liked it and didn't at the same time. I also kind of felt like it wasn't fair to him for me to lead this thing somewhere it wasn't gunna go. And here's the part where I'm an ass hole - so I just stopped calling him. I felt bad about it but I didn't want to have the talk. I couldn't tell whether I really liked *him*, or if I was just on the rebound, because I did still think about my ex a lot... even when I was with the new guy.
Anyways, after about 8 months or so of not seeing each other we have started hanging out again. And the good part is that by this point I am over my ex and ready to actually date again. I've really been enjoying hanging out with him again. So we'll see where it goes. But it's going somewhere :) Last night we both told each other that we like each other. And he's a real sweet heart. He didn't even say anything about me just fucking off out of the blue - which I thought for sure he'd bring up when we started hanging out again. And I was NOT looking forward to having to explain myself, but would if he asks because he deserves an explanation if he wants one, far as I'm concerned.
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