Stagnant, that is what the home life feels like. Ever since my W’s Step-Father passed My W just ….exists. They were not really close but she and I did take care of him for a long time. She has a day off and says she is cleaning the house (I really don’t care if she cleans or just rests) but she tells me all of this stuff she has done and you look around and nothing…. She sleeps a lot and does some last minute vacuuming right before I get home. I believe she is lost right now and I am there for her, she needs a hobby or something. I have been working on the house painting /remodeling and she doesn’t help at all she just walks through every once in a while and criticizes the work. We got into a big argument last night about all of that and the fact we haven’t even consummated our marriage yet!. She just lays there and lets me do all of the work, when she gets her part it is over. Not very fair and that is what I told her last night…why do I stay? I really don’t know it is a one way street and I am tired of her not reciprocating. Oh well enough of the pity party. We have fallen in to a rut and I am trying to shake things up! I seem to be the only one who does anything....blahhhhh! Waaah Waaah! I know
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Your wife sounds really depressed. Is she on any medication or getting any help? If she doesn\'t want to help then she shouldn\'t criticize your work. You also have a full time job outside of the home. You have a right to a Pity Party!
NO, it isn\'t a pity party. You have a legitimate reason to be upset. She is a very selfish woman. I think she should be helping you with the restoration of the home. If she criticizes your work, put your arm out to hand her a tool. I wish she was more understanding of your feelings. My heart goes oust to you, Jerry. If you ever need a ear, I\'ve got a pair that will listen, since you have been there for me. I hope things are better tonight. I am there for you.
Thank you both, it really means alot to me. I have talked to her today and she says she will help as much as she can. Time will tell :)
I understand where shes at. I suffer severe depression & get like that all the time. I feel for her & u cuz i know what my hub goes thru w me.
love ya
Cathy
Oh Jerry...you aren\'t in a pity party.