MY wife and I had a knock down drag out last night after the therapist session. The therapist keeps alluding to the fact that my wife is a lesbian and is trying to "act" as a heterosexual. She looked at me and asked why I would put up with no sex for 2 1/2 years and what kind of game are we playing? I told her that I knew of my wife’s past of sexual abuse and have been patient waiting for her to trust me enough to let me in fully. My wife said she loves me and she does want to have a full marriage with all of the benefits. The therapist asked me if I could go through our marriage never having sex, I said no. I said I couldn't see how my wife could give herself so freely to a woman in such a short time and she still hasn't gotten to the point where she can give herself freely to me to this day. The therapist asked my wife why that could be, my wife said she didn’t know why she could do that with another woman so easily. The therapist told my wife that she really needs to come to terms with the fact she isn't heterosexual but a lesbian by her lack of acts with me and lack of intimacy. The therapist said that my wife and I have to get use to being with each other and my wife needs to quit coming up with excuses as to why we can’t have sex so often and just do it. I really don’t know where this is going to go from here. My head tells me the therapist is right but my heart always gets in the way. We got home and argued for along time and my wife said that she couldn’t handle it if we were to break up, that she would fall apart completely. I asked her if she was just afraid of growing old with out someone else to be with she said no that she loves me and wants me to be her husband. Sucks a lot because I love my wife, but know I am never going to have the life I envisioned us having.