I am feeling sad and confused again. It is now 2.5 years since DDay (Sept 2012) and I had a sudden urge to look on my husband's work memory stick. I found a file dedicated to pictures of the OW (not sexy ones, just ordinary) which he has obviously kept even after I asked him to delete all pictures of her. The worst thing was that two of the pictures were relatively recent (Jan 2015) I felt like the floor had collapsed beneath me all over again. I got very angry with him when I confronted him with it. He apologised, said nothing was going on, he had forgotten they were there etc.... I put to him that not only had he deliberately kept the photos post-DDay against my wishes but had also actively added to them! He said he kept them as they represented a part of his life. It was a part of his life that he claims to regret and is sorry for (and should be deeply ashamed of) but wants to keep mementoes of?????
What about the OW, she sent the pictures unsolicited (as far as I know), why now after so long and for what purpose? Why would he keep them? That took an effort on his part to copy them and add them to this file. I even asked if he had responded to the pictures with some of his own and he admitted he may have but couldn't remember. I checked this morning on his phone and he had taken selfies on the days in question so I think that is proof enough for me.....
What about the OW, she sent the pictures unsolicited (as far as I know), why now after so long and for what purpose? Why would he keep them? That took an effort on his part to copy them and add them to this file. I even asked if he had responded to the pictures with some of his own and he admitted he may have but couldn't remember. I checked this morning on his phone and he had taken selfies on the days in question so I think that is proof enough for me.....
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sorry for being so frank. Delete them as witchy as that sounds. If he doesn\'t want to do it, then you do it. At the end of the day you feel worse for it, knowing its there. I know I\'ve ripped up cards from OW to CS. I felt dam good. Found normal pics of OW on his phone, deleted all my pics of his phone, told him keep hers, don\'t ever keep pictures of me on his phone ever again. He deleted hers. Found a letter he wrote to her, once again made him understand what it does to me finding stuff again and again, that it doesn\'t help with trying to rebuild. He got a lighter and burnt it. Yes I do make it hell for him. When I find these things. I feel I should, it\'s a consequence of keeping them. No matter the reason. If he want\'s to rebuild, this is part of the rebuilding process. I\'d assume if the shoe was on the other foot, he\'d be spitting fire at you.