I am heartbroken.  David's social worker finally called me back on the phone today while I was driving home.  Apparently, years of abuse, including probably sexual abuse.  They were removed to foster care together but had to be separated due to sexual behavior of David's sister towards his little brother.  How could they have sent her back years ago?  Where was DFYS all these years?  How could this have happened?  The workers down there testified literally against the workers up here in court saying that he was a fit parent, and ultimately sent her back to live with him.  THANK GOD, the people up here fought for him.  THANK GOD our psyciatrist testified that David should NEVER go back to them.  To think how messed up he already was, what would have happened if we had not gotten him and he was sent back!  I have been bawling in private.  I cannot let my son see me like this.  But now both are TPR'd and both foster parents have filed for adoption and we were never given the chance.  And I am told that both of them are pretty screwed up pretty bad mentally.  My heart just breaks.  I so need to believe there is good in the world.  I just feel so awful.  I have to go bawl some more. 

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OH MY GOSH! What a heartbreaking journal! I think I just want to cry with you! There is a lot wrong with this system when children have to suffer all of this pain continually, and can\'t fight for themselves! It\'s nice to know that people like you would do everything to keep them safe and treat them as their own! My heart aches everyday to think that this goes on ALL THE TIME, and I can\'t even get a child without an extensive background check and homestudy!

My prayers are with you.
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Oh hun I am also sorry for your pain I know it is hard to understand what happens sometimes. I have had my own ghost in the closet I guess you could say. Just have a good cry and it will just take time.
ivorysoul