Well David got his report card from school.  To say I am disappointed is mild.  If I had a sentence to describe his school year this year it would be:  minimal effort, whatever it takes to get by, who cares.  I am extremely frustrated.  Taking away tv, threats, pleading, support, going to school with multiple meetings with teachers, principal, counselor- nothing works.  Weekly counseling and tutoring at Huntington Learning Center and his grades have still dropped.  Love & Logic Learning parenting class says that he has to own his own problems.  I just don't know how to motivate him to want to try harder and I hate being the bad guy all of the time.  I know for a fact how smart he is and know he is not anywhere near his potential.  He has had multiple problems with fighting at school.  I hate medicating him on Adderall and increasing it every time there is a problem.  I know it helps (he has severe ADHD).  But that doesn't help my guilt over having to medicate him in the first place.  He is a black belt in karate and the medication runs out before class and he does wonderfully.  I watch him succeed when he wants.  I have tried money bribes, praise, etc.  Again, he just could care less, or even worse, hates school.  I just see him ruining his future and being the helicopter mom who hovers over my child, can't help feeling I need to do something.  I wish I could pull him from public school and put him in private school.