Well, spoke with the att yesterday afternoon. Had to ponder what was said and what I need to do. So, ex hasn't made any efforts to comply with anything. Was nice enough to give him a break on the temp maintainence, $300 a month that was supposed to start in May, plus a minimum of $150 to catch up. The att called court house yesterday. He hasn't made the first payment, which was supposed to start IMMEDIATELY. Now, he makes $75-$80 grand a year with monthly bills ranging around $2000 a month. He took the money out of the bank and hid it. The money I helped worked for. We saved my check and most of his. He left me with no money, no where to go and then expected me to go running and begging back to him. Very controlling man. And even after the divorce, he controls me. He was supposed to provide the title to the car and the Uggg timeshare. He has provided nothing. So my car is illegal. I am waiting for the title to both as I have had to make phone calls and payments to recieve these things. Everything that I was to comply with has been done with the exception of the back taxes I am to sign to give him a break on having to pay. I haven't recieved those papers and have even volunteered to sign a power of att just for the tax papers, as I vonlunteered to sign them in the first place. So, long story short, I filed motion to comply as well as contempt of court which means that even if he does begin or completes the orders by the court there will still be jail time for him. The thing is, he works for his best friend and will get paid REGARRDLESS of being incarcerated. So what kind of punishment will that be. I am not a vengeful person but I feel the only way he will let me go is to keep him in jail and in court...soooo, I am filing and getting in touch with the prosecuter and victims advocate to find out what else they need and get that started as well. Maybe if he sees I am serious about pushing this, he will LEAVE ME ALONE. Then, I will get in touch with PA unemployment as he was recieving unemployment during layoff but working under the table, which left a paper trail. I remember the names of the people he worked with and even his liason at the power plant that he had to confur with,so there is a major paper trail there. Then I will contact the Union hall in Pa letting them know that he recieved compesation from them during his layoff and that he is on a union job throwing his card around and it isn't a union job at all. He is the only one that has a card. It will affect the other workers there and I am so sorry about that but I have to think of myself right now. I am the one in danger from him, not them.  I hate him that he has put me in this position but I don't know any other way of fighting him. I ignore his texts and phone calls, have changed my cell number many times but he has a program on his puter that he can track me. Wouldn't surprise me if he had a hit man after me. What did I do to deserve this? I was a great wife to him. Loyal, faithful to the point of being sickening, loved him body heart and soul and then some. Allowed him the freedom he deserved as a married man, never bitched about anything except when he went to tittie bars and drove home drunk. That was the thing that upset me. Not that he went to those places, I didn't care as long as he had tip money. But driving while drinking? STUPID. All he had to do was call me, I would be right there to pick him up. I met him EVERYDAY, even when I was recuperating from heart cath, when he came home from work. I always had a cold drink or a cup of coffee waiting on him/. I took his boots and socks off and massaged his feet. What did I do so wrong, all those things I wanted to do, not had to do, I had to behave. Especially when he played his games. I could never play as the rules not only changed on me, the game did also. How else can I fight him? He is not afraid of authority figures as he believes he is always right and the last officers that came acted as badly towards me as he did. It happened for a reason though. When I went to the store after scraping enough change out of my cashtray, not ashtray, to put in almost $4 worth of gas, this man approached me and asked if I need asstistance considering I had to pop the hood on my car to reconnect the battery cable. The man had an "aura" is the only way I can describe it, around him. He truly meant to help me. When I went the next day to put out a restraining order on him, the victims advocate listened spellbound. Then she asked me if a man approached me. Did I drive a blue mustang that had battery problems..questions she couldn't have possibly known, unless...then she showed me a picture on her desk. She aksed if that was the man. It was. Turns out he was her husband and had already told her about me. She and I cried. She didn't realize how special a husband she had and I couldn't realize that someone else had SEEN what he did. Another boot in my ex's butt, her husband oversees my ex's progress at the power plant. Which also makes him a witness. Imagine his surprise when he finds out. So, what else can I do but fight the only way I know how? His wallet is the only thing that hurts him. Not police, not judges not jail. Maybe prison, but not even sure about that. His wallet is the only thing that hurts on him. This poor man. He was completely loved, trusted and adored by me. He will never find that again. After everythng he put me thru all those yrs I was still willing to make it work. To a point. How do I fight him? As for me, I used to be the MOST trusting person you would have ever met. Now I even question my sisters husbands sometimes. They have done NOTHING but good to me and my sisters. How will I trust again? Will I be able to give my whole heart, body and soul to another again? I question everyone's motives now. I never used to do that. I hate this about me. I hate that I have allowed this man to do this. No, I never saw it coming, It was so subtle and so slowly integrated into me that it was almost 20 yrs in the making and that is when I saw it. Trust. Love. Am I capable of those things now? How do I heal from this when it won't stop. The control he still has over my life even without contact. The courts protect me? RIGHT!!!! Okay, rambling again. On a good note, had a message from a friend on here! Somehow, he makes me smile!! His image of my butt was hilarious!!! If only the man weren't blind!! HAHAHA!!! Thanks Weinere!!!