Here it is... Another day where I'm home alone with my son, left with a messy house and a boy with too much energy to be cooped up while I try to clean.  The "DH" is gone again, on the bike.  How can one expect a marraige to work if separate lives are lived? I am in an awful mood today and really shouldn't be writing. But seriously, I can count on one hand (or less) the days that have been spent doing things together in the last 2 years.  I am miserable and exhausted.  I am seriously considering giving him the 30-day-you'd-better-get-your-act-together-or-we're-out-of-here plan. The other night I told him that we need serious help or our marraige was in trouble.  He thinks that I am the one with the problem and he simply refuses to compromise.  I told him that I didn't want to see the marraige end, but it is headed that way.  He made it like I can't afford to be without him.  I'm not so sure about that.  I know that I can't have all that I have now, but I think I can make things work.  I truly don't want to have to leave though, but I want to be happy and live a life for me.I am so torn.