We had a wonderful date night on Monday. Went to a local bar/restaraunt for drinks and appetizers. Sat in a secluded area and had a very informative discussion. He was very open and honest and began to describe "voices in his head". I prefer to think of it as his subconscious. He described how during the period before becoming unfaithful he tried to justify in his head the desire for additinal sex. He said due to the number of hours I had been working he did not want to bother me. He knew I was tired and overworked. He said he truly loved me during this time. He felt this was part of the problem in his earlier marriage. He was always being told she was too tired. It was dejavue for him. I let him know (in a nice way) I was not Bev. He had to learn to talk to me if there was a problem. It becomes our problem and not his. We agreed our marriage is worth the effort of working through our problems. We left there to see Jesus Christ, Superstar.I feel good about us. Still not quite ready to forgive. This will take time.