Today is my Bf's birthday, and we have gone to gamble on our birthdays ever since I started gambling.....for the last two days, he has mentioned the names of all three local casinos wherever he could slide them in, he has made up funny alternate song lyrics mentioning the casinos and sang along to songs we were listening to. Last night he even put on one of his casino jackpot T-shirts and wore it around the house all night....Oh, and he asked for a book about gambling for his birthday.....Is he trying to give me a hint or something???? ....LOL..... Oh, and he is dead broke right now due to having to catch up on car payments to avoid his car being repo'd (of course, due to gambling.) Funny, but I haven't felt terribly tempted by all this....my attitude is....is he for real???? Surely he can't be SERIOUS! It's like I'm not even taking it seriously that he might be trying to tempt me to take him to the casino.......but then, after all, it IS his birthday, right???? I splurged on some great big steaks and all the fixings, and he is going to get a favorite meal; he has not one, but two birthday cakes; he has a card and presents, and I will take him out to a movie, or to a club if that is what he wants.....but I'm not taking him to a casino. I won't even drive by one so he can look at it.....:-) If anything, I feel a little bit irritated that he is even hinting that I should take him gambling.....maybe I should be more understanding. I am the one who wanted to quit gambling, he is still in the middle of his addiction. An addict will do what it takes to feed the addiction.....I just wish he was with me in this. I am glad I am having a "strong" day today....I guess many of us have close friends or family that want to draw us back into gambling so they can have their "partner in crime" back.
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Way to be strong, Dianne! Is your boyfriend my ex-husband? LOL...just kidding.....I would ask my ex what he wanted for supper and he would say \"a hot dog from the casino sounds good to me!\" I\'m sure you will have a wonderful time together away from the casino. He is probably just testing you and this is a great time to show him how serious you are about quitting. What\'s the ole saying \"can\'t blame me for trying\" maybe that\'s his attitude!
He will have to accept the gift you offer him. You are doing the right thing by staying away from the casinos, they are baaaad news. You know what is best for you. You are soooooo strong in your recovery and you need to stay that way. WAY TO GO.....STICKING TO YOUR GUNS.....YOUPPIIIII.. Love ya, take care,,xoxoxo
Yea- I would be a little irritated too.. well probably a lot irritated cause I don\'t know if i am as strong as you.. I am so proud of you for standing your ground.. and you are right you cannot control his addiction. You can only control yours and you are doing a great job of it. I hope he enjoyed his steak and his two cakes.. it sounded wonderful... I am very very proud of you!!!
You are doing the right thing. You can celebrate his birthday without going to the casino. Yes he has been giving you not so suttle hints about where he wants to go, the t-shirt and all, but can he really afford to go? I used to be the same way. Just wait till he gets a little older and wonders where it all went. Keep up the good work. Don\'t go anywhere you don\'t want to and take care of yourself while having fun! Dave
You\'re doing good :) It sounds like your friend is gonna\' have a really nice b-day celebration, what a good Bf you are! No, no gambling on the b-day celebration list this year. You\'re an excellent example to him right now. Isn\'t this a case of peer pressure? I know you have no urges...at least that\'s what I think it sounds like anyway. You\'re doing a great job, friend :) I love b-day celebrations! Not mine though! LOL, have fun :) Love, Robin
I mis-read your journal at first and thought it was both of your birthdays. (I am from Alabama, and you know what they say about us)
I am glad that I\'m not in your situation. I would not be so strong. I might tell my girlfriend no, but that strong push he is putting on you might also push me over the edge. I would have to give my girlfriend a harsh kick in the rear.
Here\'s to your restraint, patience, and RESOLVE.
Enjoy St. Patrick\'s Day, GF.
chris