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I've been gone 9 weeks. Maybe 10? I don't remember, I'll have to look at a calender. My mother is driving me crazy!!! I have no freedom, I had more freedom with my husband. I've traded one bad situation for another. Jonathan is turning into a complete brat because my mom yells at me whenever I yell at him. He has tantrums so much, and she claims it's 'normal', but I've never had him throw tantrums like that before. He only does it when she's home. He used to be so good, and would do what I told him to do- like if I told him to pick up his toys, he would. Now, if she's home, he will throw a fit and she'll run to him and yell at me for telling him to do something. All the while, she's blaming his behavior on autism. BULL!!! It has nothing to do with being autistic. He has never acted like this before, then we get here and she spoils him and yells at me. I went out last to dinner last night with Jonathan and the stbx. She yelled at me this morning because I wasn't home by 9. SO THE HELL WHAT??? I'm treated like a child, with no authority over my son and no control over my own life. I'm not allowed to get a job because she doesn't want to have to babysit my son, but at the same time I'm not allowed to do anything to take care of him? It makes no sense to me. I want out of here, but I can't go back to my husband, and I can't get a job to be able to get my own place.I wish I could go to a shelter...
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For what its worth I Know Me and my daughter could not live together now because even when I visit I have a way of being kinda like your Mom. We don\'t mean any harm I think our mother instincts kick in again and we treat you all like children. Sometimes my daughter will remind me Mom I\'m 27 years old I\'m not a moron. I\'m always like don\'t forget this and don\'t forget that and do this and do that but I don\'t mean to be rude I just worry so much about her and my grandson I can\'t help it. My daughter doesn\'t work either because of his schooling and therapies and I have a full time job and I\'m the only babysitter she has. We don\'t have daycare here that I Know of for autistic children and I wouldn\'t feel comfortable any way Until he can clearly tell us what happened if he needed to. She has an apartment that is subsidized according to income which is only Ethan\'s SSI. I don\'t know if I helped you any but don\'t get to upset with mom just try to talk to her.
I am sorry. It seems impossible. She needs help - counseling. What is she so afraid of that she feels she must critize and control? She may love you and want to help you, but it seems she doesn\'t like you or respect you and that is just sad. Well, I like you, love you, respect you - I wish I could help. I really do.