Therapy
Today was my first appointment with a therapist who works with patients dealing with infertility and loss. it was a good appointment, though very hard to repeat my entire journey.
I hope she will help me find my joy again and process this loss. I hope it will help me feel stronger and better as each session goes by.
I would really love my DH to come with me for a session or two. I know he's hurting, even though he grieves differently than I do. this Saturday he blew up at me and we argued for NO reason and Sunday he was so cranky. I am not excusing bad behavior. But I know him, and he keeps his feelings in until he explodes. I am trying to cut him some slack, b'c this has been hard on him too.
I have decided to buy a May birthday stone pandora charm for my bracelet, as a memorial for my baby. something small and simple but for me to have and hold near to me.
I hope you all are holding up ok.
I hope she will help me find my joy again and process this loss. I hope it will help me feel stronger and better as each session goes by.
I would really love my DH to come with me for a session or two. I know he's hurting, even though he grieves differently than I do. this Saturday he blew up at me and we argued for NO reason and Sunday he was so cranky. I am not excusing bad behavior. But I know him, and he keeps his feelings in until he explodes. I am trying to cut him some slack, b'c this has been hard on him too.
I have decided to buy a May birthday stone pandora charm for my bracelet, as a memorial for my baby. something small and simple but for me to have and hold near to me.
I hope you all are holding up ok.
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I hope it went well for you. If not, I hope it will help with the healing process as you continue to see her. P will have good days and bad days. D has those moments also.. I hate it. But I know he grieves differently. I sure hope that this will be behind you and your next step will be successful. Hugs.
My heart hurts for you and your hubby. Praying that you are both able to grieve and heal together. This is so hard on both of you and its so important to support one another.
XO
I am happy that you met with a therapist who specializes in IF and loss. I really hope this will help your healing. It\'s a great step in the right direction. Sorry about DH, but I think this is common for how men process grief....they have a harder time than we do expressing ourselves, and I think its hard on them because not only are they suffering, but they see us in so much pain and they feel helpless because they cannot fix it. I love your idea about the May birthstone, and I think I\'m going to steal it and do this too! What a beautiful way to honor the memory of a child. Big hugs.
Good for you for taking such a brave step and seeing this therapist. I really hope she is able to help you and DH through this terrible time. I love your birthstone idea. Thinking about you love :)
thank you girls. I have been desparate for a way to do this, and framing a picture of the ulstrasound just is TOO hard. the pandora charm is discreet and just enough to honor the baby that would have been. my lord, that makes my heart hurt.
You are so smart to seek outside help and I hope you get the peace you need.
I am so happy you found something to help memorialize your pregnancy. I did the same on Mother\'s day and I felt a lot better. I have a picture posted in my photos section. I\'ve thought of finding a therapist so I hope to hear great things about your experience!